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I know the title seems like a bait or a troll at first, but let me explain how it happened. We were at a party in our friend's house and he introduced us to his friends, one of them was a generously endowed girl. She was wearing a tight tank top and it seemed like she was purposely trying to get attention from guys because I saw her pulling her shirt down a little a few times and moving in a way to make her breasts jiggle. I glanced at my boyfriend a few times to see if he was staring at her chest and luckily, he wasn't, but I still felt a little bit uncomfortable with such a busty girl showing off her rack around my boyfriend. As I said before, not even once I caught him even glancing at her bust, so I thought I don't have anything to worry about, but then she told us she has to leave and decided to hug us all as a goodbye. She hugged everyone normally, but when she came to my boyfriend (who was sitting at that moment while she was standing) she embraced him and put his face in her boobs in the process... The moment I saw that, I felt my heart drop. My boyfriend seemed to be very confused on why she'd do that and immediately looked at me to see my reaction. He could tell it upset me and he gave me a lot of reassurance after we came back home, and I know that's not his fault, but I just can't get over it. Something in the back of my mind keeps telling me that he probably enjoyed it, because what kind of a man doesn't like boobs, especially as big as that girl's? And although I'm not completely flat, I still feel insecure because my breasts are nowhere that size. I don't know what could possibly make me feel better, I just hope we never encounter that girl again.

It sounds like your boyfriend handled it as best as anyone could hope for I would give him the benefit of the doubt and believe him and try to stop thinking about it

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I think at some point in our lives we've had this moment

To those dickwads go fuck yourselves. You probably do already ya lame stupid fucks!!! Should have ended up in the condom your parents failed to use you cunts

literally, the people on here are so fucking mean

I LOVE LITTLE CAESARS PIZZA. I JUST ATE 3 CLASSIC PEPPERONI PIZZAS TO MYSELF. OH MY PIZZA. I LOVE PIZZA, MORE SPECIFICALLY LITTLE CAESARS. LITTLE CAESARS HAS THE BEST PIZZA EVER.

If you’re being forced to say this by Little Caesars, please blink twice for help.

Hi - new here and not sure this is the right place to post. This post came out longer than I thought. I [30M] was sexually assaulted by my best friend [30F] about 6 years ago while we were on a weekend trip to the shore. I had recently came out to myself as bi after suppressing those feelings for years. Her and I were best friends and I think she sensed I was struggling. We took a weekend trip to escape from the craziness of life and went to the beach. Stayed in a fancy hotel and hung out with rich old couples. It was fun until it wasn’t. We had met freshman year of college and became best friends. We never did anything sexually besides making out one time. I think there was always a small bit of tension though that would surface from time to time. Anyway. It was our second to last night there. We were laying on the bed waiting to go to dinner. I was laying there in just my boxers as she got ready. She sat down to talk as she was organizing makeup and then began to rub my thigh. “What are you doing?” I asked. “Nothing we both don’t want.” She replied. “No I don’t want to.” I said back sternly. But she had already made up her mind and my body was already reacting to her touch. “Looks like you want to.” She remarked as she pointed to my boxers. I said no again and tried to push her off. And then she got mad at me for shoving her. She stands up and takes off her robe and jumps back on the bed, on top of me and straddles my waist. I’m hard and she literally just grabs my dick and puts it in. I said, “this doesn’t feel right” and tried to push her off again. She just went harder. I wasn’t wearing a condom. I told her I was going to finish just to get her off of me. It’s when she stayed on top of me after I said that that I threw her off. I knew she wasn’t on birth control. I didn’t finish. I got up and went to the bathroom and almost broke down. My best friend just forced me against my will. Through some psychological tricks. I think part of it was her wanting to see if I was still interested in women or just saying I was bi as a way to tell myself I wasn’t gay. She didn’t believe in bi. We went out to dinner. I was quiet and she kept asking what was wrong. I deflected. We finished and met folks at the bar. I got obliterated and went to sleep on my own. We left the next day and the 3 hour drive home was quiet and we didn’t discuss what happened. I did bring it up to her once. We reconnected during the quarantine through some mutual friends. We ended up being the last ones left on a zoom call. She asked, “what happened to us?” I said, “I think you know..” she claimed she didn’t. “I really don’t and it’s been hurting me thinking I did something wrong.” “You did.” “I did? What did I do?” She said defensively. “You raped me in the hotel at the beach!” She divulged into an attack on me and about how I was hard so I wanted it. And how there was always tension and every other thing that influenced her decision. “But didn’t I say I didn’t want to?” “I don’t remember you saying that.” I hung up after that. I say this all to say that now, this woman, with whom I barely speak after being best friends for years, is often on her social media soapbox and writing blogs about being a victim of assaults the impacts it’s had on her life. I don’t detract from her experience as a victim, I know she’s been raped because I was the one to pick her up from the hospital, but it astonishes me that she does not see what she did to me and that she’s out there bashing people who assault others when she is one of them. She doesn’t think she is though. We never talk. We see each other but I avoid her. She’s traumatized me and now she’s out there being a victims advocate threading to expose men she knows raped other people. While the whole time she’s done the same thing. I probably won’t do anything about it. But just needed to vent.

I’m so sorry about this. It definitely seems like her head is totally in the wrong spot, and one day, karma is gonna hit her like a truck. She’s not a victim. You are. When men get raped, it’s very hard for other people to side with them, because it’s mostly the other way around. What they don’t normalize is the fact that no matter the gender, it’s still non consensual rape. I’m so sorry you went through this.

I think it's personally bullshit how people think it's so fucking gay to hug men, like 2 men hugging, like do you fucking see me wanting to grab my friends ass while hugging him? no? so shut the fuck up, I'm trying to comfort him in public and all I hear is gay, like how the fuck do you come up with a comeback to 2 people hugging and calling them gay? like what the fuck bro?

The people saying that’s gay *need* to be hugged

I have no idea why it pissed me off so bad, but it did. I had a can of tuna with crackers last night, and when I do, I always end up covering the can with a coaster until it’s time to eat because my cats have done this before, but I uncovered it, then got up to put something away and in those few steps to the kitchen, my cat jumped up onto the table and took a huge bite out of my tuna. Literally like 10 seconds, and the fucker jumps up onto the table and took a huge bite out of it. I ended up tossing the can and getting a new one but it just pissed me off so bad…like really? This is my fucking food that I enjoy….I buy you expensive fucking cat food for your ass to eat, I don’t go eating your shit, so leave my fucking dinner alone…I should be able to get up and walk away for 10 seconds without your greedy fat ass taking my food away from me, you hairy little fucking furball. I love you but god damn, leave my shit alone. Boundaries please….

Open up one of the cats food and stare cat in the eyes while you eat it. Restore the balance of power

I’m sick of seeing people online who keep having kids but can’t afford them. I see so many parents who sit on lives asking for money or gifts to feed their kids. Along with this so many families who have loads of kids squish them all in one room and it’s horrible. I saw one women who had 6 kids 5 boys and a girl. The girl is 13 and has to share a room with 2 brothers ages 3 and 6. Unless you can give each child their own room by the age of 12 don’t have any same goes for if you can’t feed them

I know a lot of people think this is messed up to think. It's not saying that someone is not worthy of kids because they are poor but it's really frustrating to see people have children with zero plan. My cousin had her first baby not too long ago. Things started to get rough soon after. Her mother-in-law had to steal diapers from her workplace because they couldn't afford any, her husband can't find a job (now he has turned to doing drugs, cheating, and being more aggressive), and they no longer have access to food stamps. Not only did they have to move in with their mother-in-law, borrow food stamps from family, and put their dogs up for adoption, THEY DECIDED TO HAVE ANOTHER CHILD! I just don't understand why.

Sure the f it could for the average or below average Joe's. Its often used by celebrities but they mainly are taking fame into account imo. Being rich and a non celebrity is probably awesome. No 9 to 5, no debt, Bill's are a non issue, can raise kids spoiled, you have great freedom because you have resources.

Money can't buy you happiness but it can buy you a home, pay for food, and get you first in line to see a psychiatrist. I honestly think about this every single day. I don't even want to be happy, but it's sure as hell easier to cry on a yacht than it is in a tent. 🤷

Someone DMed me a picture of them jacking it off to my face, a complete sfw picture, and I want to fucking vomit. I cannot stand allo men. Sometimes I just want to mutilate my face so this can stop. I just posted a picture because I put on makeup for the first time in public and was just loving myself at that moment and that shit happens. I hate this. I hate everything. People complain about how some people have pretty privilege but fuck- All the sexual harassment I get because of my face, and never knowing if a guy is being friendly just to be friendly or if he has an ulterior motive is horrible. I hate it. Edit: I'm not saying conventionally unattractive don't get sexually harassed as well. I'm saying in my specific cases, it's often due to my appearance which makes me resent it. And no; since apparently, this has to be specified to some, I don't hate all men. Just bad experiences have left me distrusting and on edge with many.

I’m pretty tired of weird motherfuckers making my whole gender look bad. Folks, if she wants to see your dick, she’ll ask. Trust me. It does happen, some women will ask. Have some fucking common sense, and quit being so god damned desperate.

yeah so she knocks and walks in and i have all my shit under my blanket no pants on and we’re having a conversation. i am like shaking trying to make her leave and she realizes im hiding something, lifts the blanket and is like wtf. she made it sound like she’s never done that before and made me feel like a weirdo. i lied and told her i was trying something new for the first time like im 18 i should be able to do this right ?? she kinda believed it and said she wont bring it up again but i never want to leave my room after this. like she made me feel so embarrassed i feel like i need to walk off the face of this planet. ugh i did make a joke saying at least im not pregnant and she did laugh so we’re good ?

Ew, how invasive. She doesn't respect your privacy at all. Can you get a lock?

I (25f) and my husband (29m) have been married for almost a year and together for 3. I’ve seen multiple red flags while we were dating but I decided to go through with this marriage anyway because for better or worse I love him. For context my husband was polyamorous before he met me but decided to be monogamous to be in a relationship with me as I would not be ok with that in my life. A few weeks ago I caught him sexting a woman on his phone. I had a complete meltdown, but eventually chose to forgive him because he swore it wouldn’t happen again. Then today as I’m taking a pregnancy test I get a dm from a woman sending screenshots of him sending her nudes. I’m disgusted. I don’t know what to do now that I permanently have a link to him. I’m devastated, I’m hurt, I’m sad and I have no one to turn to hence why I’m here venting to strangers. I just wish things were different but alas this is now my reality.

I'm sorry this has happened to you. You don't have to have his child if you don't want to stay connected to him for life. Leave him, abort, and try and start over. I'm simplifying this drastically but honestly it's what I would do in your shoes

Police Just came to my house and informed us they found my older brother on the street deceased. I don’t know how to feel. I don’t really feel sad, but I’m shaking a lot. My mom is downstairs crying her eyes out. I don’t think my dad knows yet.

Please join us on r/griefsupport People are kinder there. I recently lost my sister. I'm so sorry for your loss I hope moments of peace find you.

Oh no, the ADHD is not an excuse post you've seen a million times. This is not a "you need to pull yourself up from the bootstraps" thing, and I don't really see people talk about it this way. I have ADHD. I do not react well to the medications so I have never been able to stay on them. Yes, ADHD is a struggle. Yes, it is horrible and embarrassing and challenging to navigate. Yes, it's okay to ask for help. Yes, I have had relationships suffer because of it. But what I see sometimes that drives me crazy is "my roommate gets mad at me that our place is trashed" "I can't remember to walk my dog" "I'm always late for our dates/hangouts and now they don't want to hang out anymore, they suck." I feel like sometimes people get so caught up in their own struggles that they forget that there are real living beings with thoughts and feelings on the other end of it too. What we do effects them and their well being. It is not other's job to put up with damaging behavior just because we have a diagnosis to slap on it. I have had a roommate who also had ADHD who would trash the place, food scraps everywhere, with a worsening bug infestation that was sprouting from their room. I struggle with ADHD as well as some painful chronic illnesses, and was having to constantly pick up the slack. If I dared to comment or ask them to help out, I was the villain, I would be yelled at and then ignored while still being left to take on my responsibilities as well as their's. I put up with as much of it as I could for as long as I could because of my own experience with depression and ADHD. There is a difference between asking someone for help/effective communication and just lumping everything that is difficult for you on to someone else's back. Shocker, it's hard for them too. There is a line between needing some assistance and what is just abusive behavior, and some people need to hear that. It is not the people in your group project's fault and they are not bad guys for kicking you out if you're not doing any work. They have their own struggles. Not walking your dog or forgetting to care for/feed your pets is neglect and not okay. Friends not hanging out with you anymore because you ghost them or show up late consistently does not make them a bad person. Your roommate asking you to clean or being stressed out from the extra responsibilities your executive dysfunction leaves them with, or not being able to put up with it anymore is not their fault and is absolutely valid. Your coworkers feeling hurt and frustrated that your constantly late arrival puts more pressure on them? Also valid. Everyone is going through something. Everyone has struggles. It is not our loved ones/friends/acquaintances responsibility to take on the emotional and physical burden of our disabilities. It just isn't. Kindness and support, sure, but that does not translate to "you need to take care of everything I struggle with, or you're mean to me."

Preach! This is so true, I have add and my only area in life were it's allowed it to look like an absolute rat, trash, dungeon is my own room hahahha. Is it at my boyfriend's parents house tho, I clean up after me, if it's in my bf room, I pick after me. Sometimes I forget stuff (not only cleaning) because I'm having an extra hard time coping but they know that and allow me to be a little messy and chaotic in my mood then help me clean up/support me. For that I am very grateful <3

Hi, I'm 43 years old single woman with no kids. I love sex I openly talk about sex on here because it's the only place I can be an open and sexually liberated woman I am hypersexual, but managing it OK I do stupid shit sometimes (I'm sure we all do) What I WON'T do: - persue or take men from other women - act sexually aggressively in innapropriate situations - I won't sleep with multiple local men in my town - I won't enter an encounter with a man under false pretenses of what I want So fuck all of you who want to judge a sexually liberated woman who enjoys sex - this shit needs to end Enjoying sex does not = bad person Do the math

I would call you a respectable woman in charge of her sex life. I am proud of you.

I literally can't poop without my parents knocking and asking me what I'm doing, like im snorting fucking cocaine in here or I DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT THEY THINK IM DOING HERE? HUHHH LIKE SHUT THE FUCK UP AND LET ME POOP IN PEACE FOR GOD SAKE AND NOW MY BUTTHOLE IS CONSTRICTED BECAUSE IM ANGRY AND POOP WONT COME OUT FAST. IM SO CLOSE SO CLOSE TO FUCKING TAKING MY SHIT AND SMEARING IT ON THE WALL AS PROOF OR EVEN BETTER THEIR FACES, OR OR MAYBE I'LL BE CIVIL AND SPREAD IT WITH A BUTTER KNIFE ON A PIECE OF FRESHLY TOASTED BREAD FOR THEM TO ENJOY. I SUSPECT THERE'S EATING SHIT FOR BREAKFAST ANYWAY BECAUSE WHENEVER THEY OPEN THEIR FUCKING MOUTH NOTHING COMES OUT BUT SHIT. AHHH I SEE I THINK ALL THE FUCKING SHIT COMES OUT OF THEIR MOUTH SO THEY DONT HAVE ENOUGH TO POOP OUT THAT'S WHY THEY ARE SURPRISED THAT PEOPLE ACTUALLY POOP. yeah that's it I think I'm done I'm not smearing poop on the walls, I'll probably go and study or something

I'm having such a *shitty* day, thanks for making me laugh, mate. Sorry to hear your parents are awful! I hope it gets better. We all do, in fact, poop.

My best friend and I had never really talked about sex before. I finally asked her about it, and she opened up and said she had been a pornstar over a decade ago. I knew she had a horrible past filled with abuse and that she had done modeling in the past. I just didn't know she filmed porn videos and was a prostitute as well. Even worse, she only did it because the people running her modeling agency were blackmailing her. I found the videos, and she didn't just film a few casual videos. She was a full-on pornstar with millions of views. There are threads dedicated to her and people still stalking her to this day. It just makes me so sick inside to see what people have said about her, especially knowing the kind of wonderful person she is today. She is the complete opposite of anybody who I would ever imagine to have this kind of past. People are still stalking her on her personal accounts, commenting what I now realize are horrible things on her Instagram, and hunting her down. I feel so angry about the world and people's treatment of young women. She was abused, sex trafficked, and she is by the far the strongest person I have met. I wish I could to something to get back at the people who hurt her in her past. Update: I did not expect this post to go semi-viral. The only person in my life I have told is my boyfriend, and his reaction made me very angry. He told his roommate since they have both hung out with her on several occasions. They said they would both no longer be taking photos with her or going to outings where she was present. He and I got in a big fight about that this morning. I really don't know how to approach it. For everybody who has asked about her life, she is doing well! She has a college degree, runs a business, and is doing amazing things in the social innovation space to help others who went through similar situations.

I agree with you 100%. Porn is an addiction society hasn't learn how to responsibly handle. But since the pain of that is only felt by 'invisible' sex workers, everybody forgets that it isn't harmless.

For me, nothing is worse than a white southern tries to gatekeep what they *think* is their culture from me or other people of color because of whatever racist ideas they have. For those who do not know, there’s a huge issue with racism in the Blues (the music genre), rock n’ roll, and rodeo community because a lot of white people are under the impression that those things are apart of SoUtHeRn (aka white southern) heritage and isolate black and indigenous people who participate. The other day, when this boy told me this I was not even surprised because that’s how common it is. So many white rock n’ roll fans and cowboys are racist as fuck. It pisses me off because blues and rock n’ roll was created and popularized by African Americans and native Americans and the first cowboys were Mexican ranchers. Sorry if this will hurt feelings, but I’m beyond tired of white Americans especially white people from the south constantly appropriating Native and African American culture and turning around just to be hateful towards those groups. Like how are you going to gatekeep my culture from me because your ancestors decided it was cool and latched onto it?

The start of rock and roll was blues. Blues came from African Americans. This person is STUPID

MY FRIEND DECIDES TO NOT BE FRIENDS WITH ME AND ALSO DECIDES TO TELL THE WHOLE FUCKING SCHOOL IM GAY. IVE LOST OVER 10 FRIENDS FROM THIS AND I FEEL LIKE I CANT EVEN WALK THROUGH THE FUCKING HALLWAYS WITHOUT HEARING PEOPLE TALK ABOUT ME. but in all reality, thank you jack, Aiden, Cameron, and Evan for being my only friends through this crisis. Sorry for caps lol. I felt pissed this morning.

They outed you. Thats extremely fucked up and dangerous.

I knew she has always been mentally struggling with depression and self loathing and when I would visit her I would find new cuts and scars on her arms but she never wanted to talk about it. I tried to get her parents involved months ago but nothing ever happened. She moved away in June of this year to the US and we have been long distance ever since. We call almost daily and play games together and I would send her clothes I made but since she was so far away I couldn't do anything to help her. Last night we were on call and she seemed fine but she suddenly stopped responding completely. I stayed for an hour and a half to see if she would come back but she never did. Today I received news from her mom that she had died of alcohol poisoning, and that it was intentional suicide. I know that I am irrelevant but it feels like I wasn't enough for her. I could have done more to try to help her get the therapy and attention she needed but I didn't, and now everyone pays for it.

She chose you to be the last person she spoke with before ending her time on this planet. You did everything you could for her. Something tells me she knew too

As someone with autism, I thought it was kinda cool at first that a multi billionaire that wants to colonize mars came out as autistic.....i called that shit like 3 years ago....it ain't hard to tell... But after letting it stew in my mind a bit....it bums me out. He is kind of a dick, and now the autistic community will be overly represented by this stock market manipulating, rich as fuck, kinda nuts, asshole. Dude used to be my idol....he was my Tony Stark....but he kinda went nuts and isn't the same guy I looked up to. Idk...i'm just bummed that he will inevitably end up being some kind of poster child for autism....like, most of us could never be billionaires or launch rockets into space better than NASA. Rant over.

>Elon Musk coming out as autistic. Not just any autistic condition, the 'cool' autistic condition.

I mean I can’t participate in any discussions about my interests because I’m a new user. I joined reddit to talk to people about these interests, but how do you even get in if you can’t get past the karma wall? I like investing and very few of my friends like to talk about it. You can’t comment in any groups because “they’ve been spammed by new users before”. I like politics, but I’m from the south and am surrounded by a bunch of people who have opposing beliefs to my own, but again it’s the same thing. “We get spammed by people with too few karma”. I want to talk about cryptocurrency. “Sorry but we auto-moderated because you don’t have enough comment karma”. Like seriously? I feel like I’m being locked out of communities I have serious interests in. This is the internet, by putting out content you accept the possibility that you might get trolled.

Once you get past that, they remove your comments and posts for using a key word or phrase that is common in posts that violate the rules, so automoderator just filters by those key words/phrases.

So, I've been hearing a discussion about the anime 'Miss Kobayashi's Dragon Maid' and the sexualization of an underage character, and I'd like to talk about it. People claim that the character Kanna Kamui is legal age, but just looks young, and therefore she is allowed to be sexualized which I believe is absolute bullshit. Kanna Kamui not only looks and sounds exactly like a literal child, but is within the text itself, is stated to be a child. She has the same speaking mannerisms as a child, she acts like a child, she attends elementary school and is called a child by Tohru and Kobayashi. And don't hit me with the 'oh but she's 500000000 years old, that means she's really an adult!' have you ever heard of how DOG YEARS work, motherfucker? If she was a human, sure, but she isn't. She is a dragon and her species ages differently. And lastly, let's say she is, somehow still a 'consenting adult' able to sexualized. Her love interest, Riko, is a human child, a HUMAN. CHILD. And yet Kanna and Riko are still paired together, making Kanna a pedophile due to the fact that she tried to quite literally pin her down in an episode and possibly have sex with her. TLDR; Kanna acts like a child and is called a child, learn how dog years work, dipshit. Edit- why does this have to be my most popular post???

Looking at the lack of responses it looks like they did indeed 'shut the actual fuck up'.

she talks about my ass and breasts when she can, i told her to stop many times and she just wont. she knows i dont like it but still does it. she smacks my ass and did this thing with my breasts once, she also gave me tight short shorts once for school and i SPENT MOST OF THE SCHOOL DAY TRYING TO FIX MY UNDERWEAR THIS SHOULDNT BE NORMALIZED, ITS EXTREMELY SAD I HAVE TO SAY THAT. SAYING ITS SAD IS A FUCKING UNDERSTATEMENT. THIS SHOULD BE THE FIRST THING YOU KNOW IN EVERY SINGLE GRADE

Scream VERY loud when she does. Say it surprised you. Rinse and repeat until she gets tired of your loud ass screeching

I get it. Sex is cool. And? Why does everything nowadays have to be about Sex? Every 2nd fucking question on subreddits for questions is about sex. I can't fucking hear it anymore. I get that you don't have personality traits other than sex and work but stop pushing others towards that shit. I couldn't care less about your sexual orientation or experiences. I'm tired of posts about sex or nudity. Certain art subreddits frontpages are full off drawn nudes. Stuff on reddit gets upvoted just because you are able to see the outlines of nipples through some clothing. It is so unbelievably cringe to see how many people upvote that sorta content. Genitalia isn't "pretty" Becky, genitalia always, ALWAYS, look disgusting as fuck and I don't wanna read comments about how much you like vaginas/penises. I also don't want to have Sex all the time and I'm not gay for not wanting any nudes. I DON'T FUCKING CARE HOW YOU LOOK NUDE AND THE WORLD DOESN'T NEED TO KNOW WHAT KINDA GENITALIA YOU PREFER. Or maybe I am the only one that doesn't like the "aesthetic" of genitals.

You're not the only one. Are you actually asexual, or just not keen on hearing about/seeing strangers' parts? Either's normal.

I hate the fact that you FUCKING EXIST hearing or seeing your fucking name makes my blood boil i hate your face i hate everything about you every single cell of your bitch ass being fucking cunt i hate hearing you laugh just shut the fuck up i wish i could beat your ass right now FUCKING BIIIIIIIIIIIITCH I HAAAAATE YOOOOOOOOOOOOOU GO FUCK YOURSELF FUCKING CUNT WHORE SLUT HE DOESN’T KNOW THAT I HATE YOU BUT I DO , I DOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO BIIIIIIIIITCH FUCK YOU AND YOUR WHOLE FAMILY TREEEEEEEEEEEE FUCKING BITCH Anyways thank you for listening FUCKING BITCH

When a traditional "happy birthday, Stepmom" card just isn't enough...

I have a sensitive vulva and I get that it's for discharge but my underwear is either too big or too small and that fucking little piece of fucking foreskin gets in the fucking way every time and irritates me. Can anyone relate. I don't know what it's called but it needs to die. My underwear is already cotton I don't need the additional stupid fucking flap there.

Ahahahaha it's usually called the gusset, if you wanted to know your nemesis' name!

I am just coming out of the closet. Decided to go to my local bar, and I had my pride flags on (pins), so when he asked if I was gay i said well what do u think?" Then he kept complementing me through the evening and even defending me in front of his other homophobic friends. I hate myself for doing this but he was so hot and i was horny so i went in to his car for that "ride" well I thought he was going to fuck me noooo he just come in my mouth(all good on my end i love to swallow) but I didn't get off!!! I i did offer him to come to my place to fuck me. And then he left me in the middle of nowhere. I had to share my location in order for the taxi to find me. Like fuck have the decency to at least fuck me before you fuck me over. Can't i just get fucked and not fuck over.

Well that was something I read

Sometimes I don’t even feel like I’m being quiet and I don’t understand why people ask me that

Right? Like I also fucking hate when some people (especially relatives) are like why aren't you talking and participating? Like wtf do you want me to talk about? Your stupid ass gossip? I enjoy being quiet. People are competitive about social interactions, it's actually disgusting. It's all fake and bullshit. It's like that "social network" episode of black mirror. As if society is just a competitive playground to show off your social skills

My girlfriend had stage 1 stomach cancer. Nothing went wrong with the surgery to remove it but after she was able to go home the stitches has started bleeding profutely. She went back to the hospital and had to have another surgery. Before her surgery was even over she had a heart attack and passed away. We are both really young me(18) and her(21). Nothing feels real anymore. I just want her back. I can't stop crying when I think about her.

So sorry for your loss

My partner and I have been together for 11 years and have 2 young daughters together (2 and 4). He is working abroad for a few weeks so we got an au pair for the summer to help out with childcare. Today, I found our au pair in the kitchen looking very uncomfortable. She showed me a text message my partner had sent her in the early hours that he also sent to me, about looking forward to fondling my bum when he gets home in a couple of weeks, nothing overly graphic thank god. I figured he had just sent it to the wrong person, and when I made him aware he sent her a message saying sorry. Then she showed me a follow message stating (paraphrasing slightly here to leave out unnecessary conversation): "didn't mean to offend. Between you and me, you do have a nice bum like [OP] but don't tell [OP] she'll get jealous. Again no offense meant but I'm a man and men notice these things. And I'm sure you've been told before and will be told again in the future". My au pair, for your reference, is 18 and my partner is nearly 60. She started crying, saying she now feels really uncomfortable at him making comments about her body, and that she doesn't want to be alone with him when he comes home. So she's asked if it's okay if she leaves sooner than planned and flies home with her parents, who are coming to London to visit her next week. I told her I'm so sorry for my partner's behaviour and have offered to pay for changing her flight as none of this is her fault in the slightest. I feel awful for her. Her parents are super upset. She's super upset. And I'm just raging mad. Seriously. WTF was my partner thinking! I could excuse the first message as an honest mistake, but then doubling down on making inappropriate comments in the second message is just disgusting. I don't even care about him disrespecting me in the message, but I just can't believe his behaviour towards an 18yo girl who is in a foreign country by herself and staying in his home. EDIT: thanks for the support everyone. For those asking, my partner is not due home for another 2 weeks, so our au pair doesn't have to see or interact with him again. I have told him not to contact her again.

You are a good woman for being more concerned about the girl. She's lucky to have you

I am so tired of having to selectively pick the anime i watch, for fear of being exposed to some stupid fucking teenage girl being sexualized to HELL. Why is it so fucking common, every little dirty degenerate out there just says "ohhhh because they're cute and innocent and i am a dirty pig who wants to corrupt!!!!" But they know deep down that's not the fucking answer, deep down they know something is wrong with their mushed up brain, but they never acknowledge it. I am so so tired of it. I am so so tired of liking anime. I am so so tired of otaku culture, even though i am not a part of it, and refuse to get near it in fear of running in the same circles as a disgusting pedophile. I wish for the day that people finally acknowledge it sucks and just stop. I don't know what to do about my blunder. You might think this is a stupid thing to fixate on and i know it is, but these are the kind of people who can ruin others too, for no reason other than for their pleasure. Ive seen sick fucks use their shitty kiddie porn to try to groom real children. Ive seen how unhinged these fuckers can be, and the fact it sticks with me pisses me off, the fact these people exist pisses me off, and i wish for every single one of these people, who willingly sexualize kids and act as if its ok, to drop dead.

I understand tbh. I feel like trying to watch new anime without researching first is like walking into a mine field. So many times I start an anime and it seems decent or even really good but then out of nowhere there’s some loli bullshit. And then I have to stop watching because I don’t want to see it. It creeps me out. I have a running list of anime with minimal to no issues if you want recommendations.

They are NOT a part of the community and everyone hates them. These creeps even made their own pride flags and put them all over twitter. Instead of getting help and going to a therapist/phycologist so they don't hurt anyone they just....advocate in support of their urges saying its normal. Saying that what they want to do isn't harmful, that it doesn't hurt others. They ignore scientific research done by professional psychologist that shows a child is not capable of consenting to sex acts with an adult nore are animals(even the more intelligent ones, as when measured their intelligence is at level with that of a small child) capable of giving proper consent to sexs acts with a human. Science proves the lifetime of psychological harm it causes to both. A person who has suffered sexual abuse as a child is far more likely to have anxiety, depression, aggression, sex aversion, sexual hyperactivity, and is more likely to commit suicide. Animals that suffered threw it can also develop symptoms of depression and anxiety and many have to be put down. Not to mention both the animal and human can become horribly sick from the contact. I just hate it so much. The whole Pedophile pride thing started as some fake thing by 4chan but actual pedophiles clung onto it and made it a fucking thing. Edit (1 Since people keep asking: A few STD's started off with only animals having them. Such as Aids and chlamydia. Zoonotic diseases or zoonoses are the diseases of animals that can be transmitted from animals to humans. Although over 200 zoonoses have been identified which can be caused by bacteria, parasites, fungi, and viruses, 39 of them are listed alphabetically and described at Washington State Department Of Health Website. Of those zoonses that can be transmitted by sexual contact, the three most dangerous ones are- Leptospirosis: Any contact with the sexual organs of dogs, cattle, pigs, horses, and sheep can transmit this bacterial disease to humans. It can cause meningitis which leads to death in about 10% of cases. Echinococcosis: Parasitic worms from the feces of dogs, cats, and sheep can cause this disease. The worms can cause cysts in the lungs, liver, brain, spleen, heart, and kidneys. Rabies: Is one of the most severe of zoonoses and is transmitted from the saliva of cats, dogs, and horses. Edit:(2 Me: "Sexual contact with a child/animal can cause long term mental/physical harm to the child/animal." Zoophiles/Pedophiles in the comments: "UhuhUH SOURCE?! DonT mAkE ShIT UP!" It's pretty easy to look up on your own for documentation that shows the harm it causes and any proof you give them they'll say is BS and say they know better then a doctor or scientist....much like an anti vaccer parent. Edit:(3 "Well in the olden days it was ok to-" Yeah well in the old days a lot of bad stuff was was legal. Raping/beating your wife, incest, slavery, ect. Something being legal once doesn't make it ok to do now...thats why its fucking illegal.

While I agree, I’m pretty sure most of the pedo/map accounts are just 4chan trolls since maps were a 4chan ploy to make lgbtq+ people look bad

I’m sick of you idiots always telling that to me! The hell are you trying to do; make me emotionless?! Why am I not allowed to cry dammit?! If you won’t listen to what I have to say then at least let me wail! You don’t even know how to comfort your own child, and that pisses me off SO DAMN MUCH.

Also when they tell you "stop or I'll give you something to cry about."

like weekends are supposed to be our days off. so why do teachers assign so much fucking homework on weekends. i can understand one or two things that have to be done over the weekend, but some teachers give out so much homework that you have to spend the entire weekend doing it. there’s not much point in having a fucking weekend if you’re just gonna ruin it by turning it into study hall. also what’s the point of homework. i can understand projects/assignments, but why is it mandatory to do random textbook questions that are basically the exact same question. and if you already understand the concept, then it’s a waste of time. it should be voluntary. like you can do it for bonus marks or something. idk i’m just tired of school

I never understood homework, i never did it while at school because honestly what was the point, im at school to learn, as soon as im at home i dont need to work, i needed to play and be with my family. Like in the real world you dont take work home, you clock in and clock out and thats it, so why kids need to learn that?

My dad is already dead, he died when I was too young to remember him. My mom is on her death bed and my family is going pretty nuts. A few hours ago my sister got drunk and informed me that she witnessed my dad rape my eldest sister when she was 13, that my mom blamed her and kicked her out, and that that's why she didn't live with us while I was growing up. She said he also molested her but she ran away before he could rape her, and she's pretty sure he did something to my brother but he won't talk about it. My head is spinning. Here I am, watching my mom dying and I just now found out that my dad did this horrible thing and that she enabled him and made it so much worse. What must my sister have been going through? I love my mom, I'm going to miss her, but I'm furious at her and I can't let it show, not now.

Christ, that sounds like something out of a thriller movie or a sixty minutes report. Yes, your head must be spinning and you have to be feeling so many conflicting and different emotions. You might need to talk to a profession and seek guidance in that regard. I wish you the best and I’m sorry this happened to your sister

I can’t believe it. He’s gone forever. We were making jokes with each other the day before he died. I feel so shitty I should’ve been there for him. It’s so depressing, he was funny, talented and was so creative. He was also such a good friend, so encouraging and supportive. We really thought he was getting better. I thought it was an elaborate joke at first. I can’t accept it. It’s so surreal. It’s such a tragedy he had to end this way, he was also so brave and strong, he was living in a nightmare and I’m so proud he made it this far. You were a trooper. It’s not fair that we get to grow up, get jobs, get married, but he ends here. We’ll live on for you Matthew. I sound corny rn but idc, you meant so much to us. We love you, rest in piece old friend. We’ll never forget you 💔🖤 Edit: thank you all so much for all the support, you guys are so kind. Please show his family some love as well: https://instagram.com/in.memory.of.matthew.hernandez?utm_medium=copy_link Go fund me for his funeral costs: https://www.gofundme.com/f/matthew-hernandezs-funeral-expenses?utm_campaign=p_cp+share-sheet&utm_medium=copy_link_all&utm_source=customer

I lost a good friend in a car accident and I still to this day 22 years later have the same thoughts. My condolences buddy. As long as you don’t forget him, he will always live on in your heart.

My boyfriend is really into this game called rust, since we had plans for valentines I thought it’d be nice if I let him play all day the day before with no interruptions, but I didn’t expect he’d take advantage and stay up till 7 the next morning. I shrugged it off because I knew we had a great night to look forward to. He soon grew tired and I let him sleep until 6:30pm, when I tried to wake him up he asked if we could just do our valentines plans tomorrow. I really didn’t want to wait but I said okay. Forward to today and the ground is covered in a few inches of snow, so none of our plans can be carried out. I’m frustrated with him and he’s acting as if it’s not a big deal. “We spent time together on valentines that’s all that matters” he slept all day so i’m not sure how that’s spending time together. Anyways, now he’s back on his game and going about his day. I guess I have to accept that our plans are cancelled and that the game was just more important this time. I’m sure i’m overreacting but we had this planned for weeks now and I feel like he ruined the entire day for me.

Honestly does not sounds like you’re overreacting. I’d be pissed to, these plans were weeks in the making. And it’s obvious that they meant a great deal to you, I’d say that you shouldn’t downplay how it’s making you feel or act. Feel how you want to feel unapologetically

Like obviously I'm going to defend myself??? Not just accept something that isn't true lol. "Why are you getting so defensive" Shut the fuck up idiot.

I know. It’s kind of one of those mental traps they use. Gaslighting.

I just witnessed the most awkward and disgusting/weird thing ever about 2 days ago. Went to a mall with my family , and then we see kind of a crowd gathered , just as we walk in. We move forward to see what it is and guess what?… a proposal. I was cringing already and wanting to walk away , but my family seemed to be enjoying the spectacle as well. And Idk why I just didn’t leave and kept whispering “please say yes please say yes please say yes”… she said no, with tears rushing to her eyes …The “crowd” gasped and people started booing her and within a few seconds everyone walked away. Please don’t put people on the spot like that in fucking public. And the pressure to say yes ? Weird af. And the booing from people must have made it even worse for both of them

Unless you know with 100% that the person is going to say yes AND that they like public exclamations of love, you shouldn't do it. If you do it anyway then it's either manipulative (coaxing someone ibto accepting) or that person doesn't know you well enough or respect you enough (if they know you dislike doing things public).

It was my brother’s bestfriend. He just turned 18 and I’m 16. I call it rape because i tried pushing him out of my room so much but he wouldn’t go. He’s been so weird. He took pics of and stole my underwear, bras, and other things from my room. He’d came into my room last night while i was sleep and kept touching me. I told him no and to leave multiple times, and he did some times for a little bit. Once he finally left, i closed my door and went back to sleep, but he eventually came in and got on top of me. I was groggy but still trying to push him off. He ended up inserting it (sorry, that’s probably insensitive.) and he just went at it. I was just laying there, i guess i was surprised it was happening. I don’t know why I couldn’t do anything. I felt worthless, just letting him do it. He finished on my cover and left. I was still laying down baffled, but eventually i went to use the bathroom. It was so painful peeing. The most pain i felt from there. It hurt for about five minutes. I don’t know what to do. I have so mich going on in my life, should i just shove these feeling aside? I tried getting help so much lately, and my mom’s the only way i can get help from a doctor or something but i don’t feel like i should bother her with this problem, as she has a lot going on right now too. Idk what to do. Edit. I appreciate everyone who’s giving me advice, and hope people who don’t understand what im going through eventually do. I plan on telling my mom and brother and asking them to go take a rape kit test. Understand that I didn’t do this for attention, and anyone who would do something like that is pretty sick. This happened at about 2 o’clock am or later, (it’s12:30 pm now) and i did take a shower. Thank you, though, it’s nice having people understand and help me. Update: it’d been two days. I haven’t gotten much from him, but I didn’t get to take the rape kit test. My mom knows and is discussing with my brother on what to do. My brother is furious and told the “bestfriend” that if he sees him again, he’ll make him wish he were in jail. The guy also has attempted suicide apparently, but im sure he’s failed at it. If he goes to jail or anything else mentionable happens, I’ll update. Thanks again for your concerns, you all really helped me along the way.

Report to Law Enforcement. Go to the doctor and get a rape kit done. Do not stay silent. Your friends and family will 100% support you and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Put this creep behind bars.

Warning : A really gross quote below. This former friend came over to my house last month and at first it was normal conversation, about how she's grown and is taller. Then when we were in my room the prick said that she has a 'sexy ass' and he 'can't wait to see how big it gets' once she is older. I told him to get the fuck out and haven't talked to him since. All other friends dismiss it as a joke and told me I'm being too paranoid. Like they don't get why I'm so fucking bothered by it. Really pisses me off. Should I just give up on trying to get them to understand? We've all been friends for so long so it is really upsetting that they don't take me seriously. UPDATE : Told those assholes that no matter how they spin it the comments were extremely gross, I have to protect my sister and because they can’t see that, we can’t hang out anymore.

you did right, that’s just disgusting. who the f talks like that about a 9 year old child?

So I am still in negative karma after almost a year and deleting my entire reddit posts history, and it’s all because I said I didn’t like Pewdiepie, and then I got over 500+ downvotes, ruining all my karma, making tons of people tell me to kill myself, and all just because I said I didn’t enjoy a Youtubers content. The worst part is that I never said I hated him I just didn’t enjoy his content.

It's okay, I got downvoted quite a bit the other day for criticizing H3H3. And I'm actually a fan of theirs, I just disagreed with a thing they did. It just goes to show how people can't think for themselves and will jump on whatever bandwagon is in fashion atm.

I’m absolutely terrified. But I’m going to leave him. I can’t handle the toxic mental and physical abuse. I can’t keep being forced to have sex, do what he wants, and just being bullied. He made me isolate myself and lose all my friends, so this is going to be hard. I don’t know what to do or how to do it, but I have to leave

Good for you, it’ll be worth it. Good luck OP 🤍

I guarantee you that if I woke up to $1,000,000 in my bank account tomorrow that 99.99% of my problems would dissappear. I would be able to sleep like a rock knowing that my rent is taken care of, I can buy as much groceries as I please, and I can get a new car that doesn't brake down every 6 months. I could finally pursue my creative ideas without worrying about my next bill. I wouldn't have to live in my shithole apartment where I can hear my downstairs neighbor screaming at his girlfriend everynight. I wouldn't have to go to my shithole job I'm not even passionate about. I could take care of my struggling grandparents who still work full time in their 80's. I could finally buy a ring and propose to my girlfriend and provide her with a good life. I could finally follow my dreams of starting up an indoor dog park with a coffee shop. I could pay off all my debt that is eating me alive. Money DOES buy happiness, and security, and a sense of well being.

Money can't buy happiness. But it can pay off student loans, my house, my bills, and buy a Porsche 911 and that's pretty goddamn close. Edit: If money doesn't buy happiness, why does Jeff Bezos insist on hoarding so much?

I was on my way out to a night out with friends. I take care of my appearance & get enough hassle from men. I'm well educated, from a nice family, I have good job, and I'm a mother with 2 kids, and I deserve to relax from time to time without being hassled. This is what happened: A homeless man walked over to me as I was sitting on a bench and asked to buy a cigarette from me- I politely refused, explaining these are my favourite & can't get them in this country (blueberry flavour), plus I need the pack to last me the whole night, but he got so angry at me & said "I'M HOMELESS AND LITERALLY ASKED TO BUY ONE FROM YOU" - I repeated myself & said "no, I'm fine thank you." He swore at me & walked off, leaving me so shaken up I couldn't go out. I thought he was going to attack me. This leads me to tonight (in a totally different city visiting my friends, while waiting for them, a homeless man asked me for a cigarette) & this happened: A homeless man asked me if he could buy a cigarette, so I gave him one. He then kissed me to say "thanks" - I was so grossed out. I'm so sick of being hassled when I'm out. Why cant you men stop being so creepy everywhere... just leave me be.

Yuck these comments. Everyone shut up about sexism now's not the time. Yeah obviously not all guys do these weird shit but jeez shut up and complain about it another time. I'm sorry that happened to you OP, that's literal sexual harassment.

I had sex with a girl and it was not good. I was quite nervous because I’ve never done it before and she’s quite popular and she’s done it a lot but I didn’t want to miss the chance of losing virginity because I’m autistic and social anxiety I thought it’s my only chance. It took me quite long to get hard and my d1ck is on the small side. When it started she didn’t really have a reaction and I ask her if it’s ok and she said yeah but it didn’t look like it. I came pretty quick only after like 3 minutes and I am embarrassed and I’m pretty sure she text and told her friends making fun of me. Now I feel super embarrassed and humiliated and I don’t want to be made fun of.

One thing I learned a long time ago on Reddit... Doesn't matter. Had sex.

I, 25F, decided to give my male friend, 30M, a blowjob because we’ve been interested in a friends with benefits thing for a while. The way he described his interests sounded awesome and right up my alley, so to speak. I started with hopes that he would finish and then I would get my own turn. This dude literally lasted for over an hour and a half and my jaws are so sore. Eventually I had to ask him to finish by himself, because I couldn’t do any more. Blowjobs are usually fun for me but it wasn’t anymore after so long. Plus he was absolutely silent. When I tried to ask if he liked what I was doing he just said, “you gotta work for it.” He told me he had high stamina but I wasn’t expecting that. I feel embarrassed and I think if he had done literally anything besides sitting with his arms folded looking at me, I might’ve enjoyed it more. I asked him to grab my hair but he stopped almost immediately. I’m not saying he had to whimper and moan but a little encouragement or his hands in my hair would’ve been nice. He didn’t even touch me. Nor did he show the faintest interest in reciprocating. I’ve wanted to do this with him for a while and we talked about it beforehand, but I don’t think I’ll be doing that again. I just feel so awkward.

Yeah, definitely dont do it with him again. If he talked it up and acted that way then Id say he never intended to actually do anything thatd help you but wanted everything for himself.

I won’t beat around the bush: high school f**king sucked for me; it was five long years of awkwardness and trying to, but not quite succeeding in, forming a supportive circle of friends who you like and who like you. Along with just not really clicking with anyone platonically, I was also treated very badly by the boys I went to school with - a lot of them formed a habit of calling me a retard or a dyke, despite the fact that I’m not disabled or gay (not that that would warrant calling me either). I’ve been out of school for a year now and I’m currently enrolled in a university where I fit in much better and, I’ll be frank, being *actually* liked is a mindf—k. I’m always thinking in the back of my head things like: “They’re all just faking it to be cruel...” or “Who would want to be friends with *you*? What’s so good about *you*?” Recently, I also gathered up the courage to download Tinder and having guys flirt with you, instead of spreading rumours that you have AIDS or locking you out of the classroom when you come back from the bathroom, for instance, is also a mindf—k. I think I’m finally coming to terms with the fact that maybe I am capable of being liked and/or loved by the people I surround myself with besides my family. Sometimes, the problem, and bear with me here, *really is* everyone else, and not you. However, I still have quite a long ways to go, and I still hold all of these new people that I think, maybe, just maybe, genuinely like me at arm’s length. I was trying to talk to my mum about it a couple of days ago and she simply said: “you finished high school a year ago, get over it already”, but I feel like this isn’t something you can just get over all of the sudden. People *severely* underestimate how much being unpopular or being found undesirable high school can just absolutely shatter your self-worth/self esteem for a long time. Life isn’t like a movie; you don’t just wake up one day and leave behind all of the emotional baggage that you got from high school. Anyway, this post was all over the place, but I felt good to just blurt all this stuff out. Peace out.

It gets better. I graduated high school in 2008, and it took me many years to feel like I mattered. But I do, and I have a great group of friends who would back me up on anything. High school is overrated, real life starts after.

I owe you a BIG F*CK YOU. You let my SO come into your house and fix your heat and you didn’t think to tell them that someone in the house was under quarantine?! If you had told them they would not have refused the work as it was an emergency fix. They could have just worn proper hazard suit to protect themselves. This was before our state had large number of those testing positive and before the stay home order. My SO had a drastic onset of symptoms in the last 24 hours that started off as something they didn’t even think could have been Covid19 till this morning when they were in the middle of another emergency call and had to leave because they couldn’t stop coughing, wheezing and couldn’t catch their breathe. Currently we are awaiting their test results (with the backlog that can take a week) and both are out of work for quarantine as we both are essential workers. To those who think this is just a joke, my SO walked around for a week (guessing that’s when he was exposed based on behavior of the client and by the time SO realized it was too late for a mask and proper suit to protect him). We have been following the stay at home order before it was even in place but I feel guilty that I could be carrying this virus around as a healthcare person and didn’t know for A WEEK. that is so many possible infections my supervisor now has to clean up after. In all seriousness stay home and stay healthy. ETA: thanks for the award 😁😁

Holy shit, things like this are absolutely terrible. I'll never understand why people don't take this seriously, not telling anyone if they've been exposed, are sick, or everything else. It's so selfish, really. I hope he recovers, and I hope you do too if you start showing symptoms. Take care of yourselves, and be well.

And the fucking pencil-dicked shit-stained wastes of oxygen that commit them. Jesus fucking christ, ANOTHER one today? There were several last week in texas, and they didnt even make national news! Treating teachers like clowns, not paying for proper education for all, a lack of access to physical AND mental health, and the fact that its way to easy to get your grubby little hands on assault weapons are OBVIOUSLY the fucking reason, but oh lawd jezus amen dont nobody let the cdc or anyone else study it to provide tangible statistics based answers, thatd be too fucking practical a solution! Wouldnt want those slimy slimy shit-suckers in washington (of the red AND blue variety) to stop getting their handouts and paychecks. Fuckin A people. Are we really that god damn pathetic a society that we cant all feel viscerally sick enough to actually let the scientists and statisticians guide us to a safer place for kids? Are we really all doomed to let the knuckle dragging mouth breathers in charge keep this candy-assed, no-action having, no solution making government keep going the way it is simply because they know how to yell the loudest and rack up the most votes from fellow dumb shits?!?!?!? Idk man, just tired of not saying anything because smooth brained inbred assholes will get butthurt and think im gonna touch their no-no spots (ie their gun safes) or because pansy ass douchebags are too soft spoken and non-confrontational to actually drag their lazy ass to a voting station or protest to do anything about the violence and death of innocent children basically every day. Anyone else feeling just as steaming and rabidly mad about the whole thing as i am? Based in US, fucking obviously.

I'm not only beyond sick of the shootings, I'm fucking done with these republican assholes who act like nothing can be done about it because nothing is more important to them than their guns that they fucking masturbate with. I live in Texas and I can't stand the pro gun, pro life, pro "gigantic-truck-because-i-have-a-small-penis" culture here. I've worked in schools most of my adult life and I worry more and more as time goes on that my school will be added to "the list" before I retire (if I ever get to). It's so fucking pointless to care about anything anymore.

God I start asphyxiating after two minutes exercising or being out in the cold but wearing a piece of fabric is enough to cause severe oxygen deficiency? Give me a fucking break. Unless you have COPD (haha COPiD) or lung cancer then stfu and wear a mask so people like me who might actually die from this shit can continue living.

I’m overweight and out of shape, going through PT right now (getting treated like a recovering athlete since my job is very physically demanding) and even with all the hardcore shit my physical therapist has me doing, I have yet to drop dead during it because I’m wearing a mask. Sure, it sucks, and I probably breathe a little harder because my airways are covered by the mask, but if I can manage that without keeling over, I think all these morons that are crying about not being able to breathe should be able to manage for the 30 minutes they’re meandering through a supermarket

I just really need to get this out and I thought maybe it would make me feel better. This will be very long. My stepsister has been in our lives since she was around 3 or 4 years old. My father was the only dad she has ever known because her biological father passed when she was a baby. He raised her as his daughter. Growing up they were always strangley close. To be honest it did make me jealous because it was so blatantly obvious that he loved her more than me, his first born. For context I am a year younger than she is. As young as 10 or 11 I've had people come up to me and ask me if anything was going on between them because they seemed too close. Which seemed insane to me at the time because I never imagined my father would be capable of that. They were constantly together though, he wouldn't let her stay the night with her friends. My other sisters and I were allowed to have sleepovers whenever we want but she never stayed the night with anyone. She never really dated anyone and it was an unpolen thing but it seemed like she wasn't allowed because I remeber one time seeing her walking with a boy and she told me not to say anything to our dad about it. She grew up to work with him and at this point stopped calling him dad and began calling him his real name. Fast forward some she's around 20 and my dad and her mother get divorced. She get a diffrent job eventualy not working with him. She continues to live with him and so do our brothers. Fast forward a few more years and I go over to their house and see that her bed is in the same room as his. I asked them why and they said that they felt like my brothers needed their own rooms so they just moved her bed in to his. I thought this was strange. I later found out that they told my other step sister about their relationship that day and got upset when she was not accepting of it. Several months later I'm at my daughters birthday party and my little sister shows me a tiktok that my father posted and it a love song with slideshow of pictures of my stepsister and a caption proclaiming his love for her. I was shocked and disgusted. Then I was even more upset when I find out that I am literally the last to know. My only full sibling who should be the one that I can talk to about this has know for months and didn't even tell me. And worst of all she is supportive of their relationship. I am very much the opposite. He is a child groomer and I want nothing to do with him anymore. I messaged him and asked him why he couldn't tell me in person and why I had to find out through fucking tiktok and he replied "idk", that's the last time we spoke 3 years ago. They have said a few different stories when people ask. I've heard their relationship started 8 years ago and I've heard 11 years ago. My full blood sister and I have tried to have a relationship with each other but I find it very difficult because she supports them. Mu stepsister is 30 and he is 51. They got married a year or so ago. Recently I was scrolling through Facebook and I seen something she was tagged in and I got curious and looked at her page. There it is, a pregnancy announcement. Posted a month ago. Yet again I am the last to know. This sends me over the edge. I'm so sick everyone treating me like I am the bad guy because I don't agree with their relationship. They make me feel crazy sometimes. It's so obvious to me that he groomed her, I don't see how no one else in my family can see that. This has driven a huge wedge in my relationships with family members. I just wish we could pack up and leave and never have to talk to anyone again and just ignore this. My full blood sister messaged me today and told me it's a girl. A girl. Another girl he can raise and groom. How can they bring a child into this. And how is everyone so happy for them. This started a huge argument between me & my sister and I just ready to say fuck it and give up on having a relationship with her. She wants us to just continue being friends and pretend this isn't happening and I just can't do it. If you read all of this thank you so much and I'm sorry if my grammar is shit, I'm upset.

CSA survivor here. One fucked up thing my mother's husband used to say to me when I got older he was going to marry me...reading this made me feel like I was that scared 14 year old again who didn't know how to get out. Idk how to help you help her she's trapped in his shit and convinced probably that this is all she deserves and no one else will ever want her, and he's the only one that ever will. It's hard to break free, but you can't set yourself on fire for her or your sibling. But you can protect that little girl by keeping an eye on things from a distance. You may one day be the person to save her.

It's legal to have sex at 14, so it's widely accepted that people of that age have sex with people who are older than 20. And it's fucking *revolting.* They'll often use arguments like "if nobody gets hurt, what's wrong with it?", "people are sexually mature at 14!". Oh, so it's OK for a 14-year-old to be with a 30-year-old because the younger party is sexually mature and the older party isn't physically abusive? 🤡 I can't wait for people who are guilty of exactly this to give me shit for having morals.

I had sex the first time when I was 14. Wasn't legal but I was kind of manipulated into it. It should NOT be the legal age. I was still playing dolls sometimes and had to have sex with an abuser. No one talked to me about abuse nor consent. We need better sexual education on consent and boundaries.

Edit: Reddit just cant help itself and makes up assumptions. I did not randomly bring up rape in front of my cousins. Their father was discussing Anonymous calling it a terrorist group. I assumed him bringing that up meant I was able to talk about matters involving anon. I literally said "they kind of helped out the stauderville rape case" and got the death glares. Im not stupid or naive enough to think my two teen cousins that have twitter and tiktok and all that HAS NEVER HEARD THE WORD RAPE. Thankgully id later had a private chat with my 12 year old female cousin. She was already dating her brothers 14 year old friend at this point and my chat with her helped me feel better because she assured me she wasn't ready for "more" with her bf and alluded to already having been in a situation involving intimacy. She isn't an idiot, my male cousin is not an idiot either. They're both, like, actually straight a students with my older cousin being in advanced classes already. Sorry uncle, your kids know more than you are ready for them too. That, again, is a point of this post. They "know" stuff, Its YOUR job to actually EDUCATE them. Brought up a rape case in front of some of my fam members. Their 12 and 14 year old son and daughter, respectively, were in the room and all the adults looked at me in horror. Why?? They're both old enough to be taught about sex, consent should be a part of this! I was raped at 11 and didn't know thats what it was really until I was in my mid 20s. I had to have a therapist talk me through it like a child. "He went in you, it hurt, you told him to stop. Just because he stopped doesn't mean it wasn't rape. You were 11. He was 30." So FUCK THIS. Fuck what they consider taboo topics in front of "kids". Of course there's an age but both these "kids" are a teen boy and preteen girl! Listen, boys aren't taught consent. Its rough that some boys may find themselves in a situation where a girl is accusing them on sexual assault or rape when neither party knew how to handle sex and consent in general. I know girls who were raped but the boys didn't know because were taught rape is violent. But a lack of solid consent can lead to both parties being traumatized. Im a girl who was assaulted by a step dad and a boyfriend. Though the boyfriend I give slack to. I told him no but gave in. It happened once. I did feel like if I didn't give In hed be mad. But In general this bf wasn't a rapist. We both lacked boundaries. We talked it out too. Teach your sons and daughters consent. Boys aren't taught they can be raped. Ive talked to men who were raped and THEY make degrading jokes towards themselves. Rape happens to everyone. Teach your kids about consent. Teach your boys they don't have to rush or do what they don't want because "being a virgin isn't cool" because young boys place a lot on sex and that's how were produced incels. Boys who think sex is The Main Goal with women and in life. Teach your kids they arent sex objects. But also encourage safety, dont scare them! Sex will happen. Just teach them everything you wish you'd known. Talk to your parents, what do they wish they'd known or done with you? Make the sex talk as mainstream as sex is. Most everyone will have it. TALK ABOUT IT.

Slow clap all the way thru** yesss, I do agree. I wish I had known sooner. I have boundaries now, but only because I didn’t before. Thank you for your post.

EDIT: Since everyone’s assuming I’m a girl, I just thought I’d establish that I am a guy. I know this sounds like clickbait, but just hear me out. Today at work (I work in a mall) I had an upset stomach, so I went to the nearest public bathroom and sat down in the only stall unoccupied. As I was doing my business, an apparently deranged man came up to the stall door and started banging on it and yelling “OPEN THIS DOOR RIGHT NOW” and I was scared literally shitless. He kept doing it and I was really scared and couldn’t really process what was going on, the only thing I could come up with was to say “If you come in here, I will literally throw my shit at you”. Of course, I was bluffing, and I obviously didn’t really intend to do such, but the guy was not fucking around, and started climbing under the door. I had absolutely no defense here, and I had my pants down with absolutely no way to defend myself. So I did the only thing I could think to do, I reached into the toilent underneath myself, grabbed a log of shit, and threw it on his face. He didn’t say anything, he just paused, and walked off. Nobody at work found out about this, but I still don’t know what else I should or could have done in this situation. My safety was being threatened and this all happened within maybe 20 seconds. I told my boyfriend about it and he told me I was disgusting and out of line and he hasn’t spoken to me since.

What the hell did your boyfriend want you to do then? Let the fucker inside?

my moms current boyfriend strangled me again. it was because i came home earlier than he wanted me to. it’s not even like i was an hour earlier, i came home at 8:45pm and they wanted me back at 9pm. it was 15 minutes. when i got home from the park, i didn’t even realise what time it was, i was just planning on having a shower and going to bed. i walked through the door and they both came to ask me why i was back already. i told them it was too cold to stay outside so i just came home. my moms boyfriend (who’s called nick) was yelling at me but i kinda just blurred it out and put my headphones in because that’s what i always do. i went to the bathroom, turned on the shower and got in. i also locked the door. nick kicked down the bathroom door WHICH WAS LOCKED and shouted at me again. i said i was sorry and i asked him to please wait until i was done, which is when he started. he strangled me in the bathtub. my own mother just stood there and watched. there was water everywhere and i was kicking him but i felt so weak. it probably only lasted like 2 minutes but it felt like 2 hours. my mom did text me to say sorry and that she should’ve done something to help. i’m so mad at her. she just stood there and watched while her daughter was being strangled while naked in the bathtub. i told her it was okay because i don’t want her to feel bad about it. i’ve locked myself in my room right now (he’ll probably kick this door down too). i can still feel his hands around my neck. i’m still crying. i’m still shaking. i’m still in shock. i’m still in pain. i can’t sleep. i can’t eat. maybe if i listened, none of this would’ve happened but idk. i’m still also embarrassed because he’s just seen me naked. i know it’s wrong to, but i hate this man. i wish she’d just move onto the next already. nick also texted me. he said that if i ignore him again, the consequences will be worse. he also said that he does this because he loves me like his own and just wants me to learn to follow instructions. fuck him.

NEVER tell someone "it's okay" when it absolutely was not. Your mom didn't just fail you - she _approved_ of what he did by watching it unfold. Literally doesn't matter what she says to you because her actions are what matters. You are not safe in that home. Her boyfriend can and will kill you. Do not take this situation lightly. You need to call the police for assault. You need to tell any adult that you can trust exactly what happened, and get yourself out of that house.

I’m 18 and my bf is 17. We both just graduated this year, And my coworkers think I’m a “groomer” bc my bf is a minor and I’m an adult. The thing is, We’re only 6 MONTHS apart. My birthday was in February, And his is in August which is literally 2 months away. We’ve been together for almost 3 years too. Do people really expect us not to see each other for 6 months just bc I turned 18 first? Seriously, wtf is wrong with people?

They’re either stupid, jealous, or just messing with you. Maybe a little bit of all 3. You’re definitely fine. Nobody in their right mind should think thats even remotely weird

It’s not about how I look, it’s about how people treat me. Not even just me, other black people too. There are places that I can’t go because people might *kill me on sight* for being black. There are hairstyles I can’t wear to “be professional.” I just wish I could shrivel up into a ball and die. There are thousands of people in a group called the KKK that want to to kill me because of my skin color and their not even referred to as a terrorist group yet. Why are white people so scared of us? Why do they hate us? What did we do besides exist? Along with the fact I live in Amerikkka, so that just adds on to the pressure and misery. My mom gets called racial slurs *daily* at her job to the point where she’s numbed to it. When she was working in Minnesota, she wasn’t even referred to by her name, she was referred to as “that colored woman”, and people constantly tried to get her fired. Why can’t people just leave us alone?

its not you, it's them. their perception, their world view, is grossly distorted and you and your mother are the victims of that. i'm a stranger to you and my dad is white but he raised me to draw my conclusions, and i choose to hold this stance: i swear that if i ever saw anyone talk to your mother that way i would beat the shit out of them so you don't have to put yourself in what would be far more extraordinary risk. From where I stand, it's difficult if not even impossible for you to defend yourselves from authoritarian bully police. The poor wife of philando castile, when i watched that video, i was disgusted and heartbroken by her state. she had no control over the situation and it was all she could do not to rage at them for killing him and risking her life and her children oh god it makes me so angry. Please know that there are people that will fight for you.

I understand it’s my parents house. So they have every right to go into my room and everything and I will never be disrespectful about that. But my step dad took condoms out of my room and confronted me about it in front of my mom ANGRILY AND PISSED OFF. saying it’s disrespectful. Like I’m practicing safe sex with ONE PERSON. And I’ve been on the pill since 18. What an asshole. And I’m 26 years old BYE EDIT: thank you guys! To clarify a lot of things I saw in the comments. Thank you for all your responses. I wasn’t sure where I stood with this. You guys are so helpful. To clarify certain things: 1)I work full time as well as part time Uber driver and my I pay my parents as if I were a tenant. I pay them monthly a flat fee just for living in the house. I put in for bills, pay groceries, shared streaming services, pretty much anything they ask for it’s no big deal because they would do the same for me. 2)I’m saving LOTS of money by living this way and with the current pandemic with not being able to go out as often and saving lots of money on canceled vacations and just how things are going I’ll be able to move out with a nice down payment on a home in maybe a year or two. 3) I have never struggled with addiction or drug//alcohol issues. 4) My step dad has always had an antagonistic behavior toward my boyfriends as well as me when he found out I went on the pill at 18. When my breasts got bigger as a result of the birth control he said I looked like a cheap stripper with fake boobs and my mom got beyond pissed at him that she even slept separately and didn’t talk to him for many days. He apologized but he only did it to save face or not have the wrath of my mother. I don’t have sex in the house if anyone’s here or I go to my boyfriends place (he lives with 2 other guys and we’ve also discussed the option of getting our own place when his lease is up). I’m terrified to even masturbate in my own house because I don’t want to be called a sex addict or accused of anything. I’m not saying that I’m in the right here. It’s ok to disagree with me. But I feel violated to a certain extent. My mom came back with saying, “You aren’t doing anything wrong. But you know how he is.” Yeah I know how he is. A big asshole over something as little as condoms. But once again, many of your comments were very useful and don’t make me feel ashamed. Sex is beautiful and amazing and makes me happy and there should never be anything wrong with that.

>I understand it’s my parents house. So they have every right to go into my room and everything and I will never be disrespectful about that Actually no, this mentality that a lot of adults have is toxic af. Everyone deserves some privacy, because we're all human beings, even kids. If you refuse to treat kids as whole human beings and if you refuse to consider that things you buy for your kid are their belongings, don't have kids in the first place. "my house my rules" shouldn't apply to ripping others from basic human decency. And damn, you're 26. You can do whatever the f you want and own any object you want, especially if you paid for it. And "slut" doesn't mean anything, it's a misogynistic insult invented to shame women into submission. You could have sex with a 100 guys a day and go out half naked and you still wouldn't be a slut, bc it doesn't mean anything. I hope you can remember all that and soon get your own place. Good luck!

For context, I'm black/native. Yes, I have the right to speak on these issues. Racism has always been prominent in our society, and we're supposed to be working towards fixing this; but I only see history repeating itself. I'm aware that white ancestors treated poc horrifically, and I understand that this lasted for a LONG time. I am aware that poc still face discrimination in our world today. But I don't see how that's an excuse to also treat white people poorly?? I see so many young black women/men specifically targeting white people, belittling them, insulting them, and flat out bullying them over NOTHING. And when I voice my opinion to them, (being that no one deserves to be treated that way), I get responses like "Okay whitey" or "White people, always making it about themselves", "You owe us reparations", or just any stupid shit really. This makes absolutely no fucking sense to me. If a white person was seen doing this, they'd be tore down instantly (As they should) but no one holds the same standard for poc?? While some of us actively discriminate against people for their skin color, we tell them that they can't reciprocate this energy because then they're racist. AS IF WE'RE NOT RACIST OURSELVES. It's genuinely upsetting to see this all of the time. While it is the responsibility of white people to educate themselves on the past, they are NOT responsible for what their ancestors did. The past is literally fucking repeating itself and it makes me physically ill. (Edit: Sorry for the format I typed this in. Writing is not my forte.) Edit 2: I've already stated this in replies, but I'm going to put it here as well. I'm fully aware that systemic racism is alive and well. I know that our society is conditioned for white people. But by acting like this, some poc are reinforcing the negative stereotypes that they want to abolish.

I’m a POC and I agree. Racism isn’t ok against anyone. Making fun of someone for their skin color isn’t ok, period. I was racially bullied when I was a kid and I don’t think it’s ok to use someone’s skin color against them in a derogatory way. If you are joking around as friends ok, but the racism has to stop

I just learned that my mom was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer today. She's the greatest woman ever, and put off telling me until the last minute because she didn't want me to worry. Dammit Mom!!! I'm with you now, and I know that you have Pop helping, but... fuck... I could have helped you carry that weight. The treatment plan is in place, and everything looks positive, but... fuck... Fuck cancer. Fuck you, cancer... fuck you right into the fucking dirt.

FUCK CANCER!!! It’s such an evil illness and I really wish it would fuck off and stop existing. I wish you guys the best and I hope your mom makes a swift recovery💖

Got myself some dinner and ice cream and strolled a bit around the city. The first step to recovering from a toxic relationship. Starting to feel strong these days

Be careful. I took myself on a few dates.. it was awkward at first but I eventually fell head over heels in love with my own company. Seven years on I'm still so happy alone that I can't imagine myself ever wanting to be with anyone else again. All of us are absolutely awful in some way or another. And I'm sick of the months it takes to find out in what particular way this new person will inevitably be awful. When it's just me I don't have to worry about it. Plus I really amuse myself with funny jokes, songs on the ukulele, interesting hobbies, wine, cooking, travel, learning languages, and tons of little adventures. I love the way I think. I mean there's nothing I really like about the state of the world and life itself I would have skipped had I been given the choice, but seeing as how I'm here, I'm honored getting to be in this particular head. With all this going on someone would have to be pretty fucking amazing to be better for me than just being alone. I strongly doubt such a person exists and even if they did, they'd be better off avoiding me, as from their perspective I'd be just another awful person to waste a few months/years/decades on.

I might get down voted. Idc this is just me venting. I've been a fan since 2011. I could relate so much to her songs because I got my heartbroken several times. But with her recent release..it's clear that she cheated and she's cheated before too..I absolutely detest cheaters. She's someone I used to look up to..she was my idol until recently. I know it's her personal life and none of my business but this was the person I looked up to when I hate cheaters. She's written songs about guys who broke her heart and I could relate so much. Some fans also attacked those dudes for leaving her..but it's okay for her to straight up cheat on someone who dated her for 6 years! Yet fans are still angry at her exes who left her. Leaving is much better than immorally cheating. I cannot really look upto her anymore. It's disgusting. I'll always love her songs but not her as an idol.

Welcome to the real world. The saying “Never meet your idols” is cliche for a reason. Edit to add: I’ve been a rock musician my entire life (68M) and have seen the rise and fall of every single musical hero of mine, from Hendrix to … now. Even though they are the magicians and shamans and muses channeling the magic to us, they are still human. It’s hard to separate their dark sides from the joy they bring us. It almost seems like the most mind-blowing musicians are also the most broken. Not to mention the eternal complication of the music industry challenging the entire process. End of the day, ya gotta let go of the fantasy.

I WANNA CRY 😭😭 I WAS JUST TRYING TO SET UP MY BROTHERS CONTACT IN HIS PHONE AND WAS LOOKING FOR A CONTACT PICTURE FOR HIM AND I SAW IT IN HIS PHOTOS. 😧😧 IT WAS DEF TAKEN SEXUALLY AND I JUST CANT I NEVER THOUGHT THIS WOULD HAPPEN TO ME I NEED BLEACH. 🤢 Edit: the picture wasn’t on my brothers phone, it was on my dads phone. Edit 2: SOMEONE SENT REDDIT TO MAKE SURE I WAS OKAY WITH LINKS TO MENTAL HEALTH RESOURCES 😭😭

I read this wrong at first and thought you found the pic on your brother's phone, and for a second I was thinking you had much bigger problems than seeing the picture of his dick, compared to where you found it.

like, i don't think I'm actually in danger of taking my own life. it requires more initiative than i have, less fear of the unknown than i have, and also i literally don't know how id execute any plan. they all scare me too much. overdosing could lead to brain damage, anything that's powerful enough to kill me is powerful enough to give me a lifelong disability if i live. and i think i want to live? i don't know. not to mention that itd traumatize my loved ones. i don't want to irreparably damage the space i left, i just. want out. there's different layers to suicidal thought, yknow? it's not as if every person in pain who thinks about it will kill themselves. people think about killing themselves all the time without any of the drive to do it, they might think about it constantly but still run out of the way of a moving car. having the thought and having the motivation to do it are two wholly separate worlds i don't think im actually in danger? im just. the normal, socially acceptable level of passively suicidal. .....boy, i sure hope this post doesn't come off like me just barely convincing myself. what- what do I even want out from? i mean ok other than living in pandemic america where the future lives in the hands of terrifying billionaires and we're backsliding into facism at a terrifying rate. it's just that im- less functional than any one person should be at 24. i never went to college, my mom is literally buying me a house to try and get me on my feet, and i am consistently too overwhelmed by the world to participate in it. i know i have talent and saleable skills, i just- know from experience that whenever I try and implement those skills in the work force, something about my anxiety breaks it. I don't know how to go about getting a therapist that works. I was in therapy for months before i had to drop out because it was too expensive, and it wasn't helping me. i don't know what's wrong with me that finding another feels impossible. i KNOW its better than wallowing here. i KNOW i have to keep trying to make my life better. im just. exhausted? to a point where i don't know how to reenter my own life? at this point i hate how much the self destructive options feel easier. i know that talk of "refusing to burden other people with your problems" is its own kind of self destruction, but i really do genuinely think the people around me are in no place to help. so i gotta help myself on my own. and goddamnit, i will. but i don't know if im actually doing any of the things that are moving me forward? I just, sorta gotta keep living until i have enough in me to get my life together. i know that's the only option i have. im just tired. im tired and i if I ask for help, im afraid all ill get is people wondering why i didn't try harder.

Yeah, I definitely don’t have the guts to kill myself. But everyone always talks about having ‘a fighting spirit’ and if I were to get in a terrible accident, I just don’t think my spirit would want to fight.

Fuck you for being racist. I was born here and my heritage doesn't justify telling me to kill myself. My heritage doesn't give you a reason to treat me differently. I am human just like everyone else and I am SO FCVINGJK NBODJCGVBN sSICK of living my life with the constant fear of being attacked in some way or another just because I am Turkish. Growing up in rural Germany was such an unbelievable nightmare its insane and I am done with everyone from back there. Iam done with everyone who has diminished my experiences. Iam done with deniers. FUCK YOU to all those who've racially slandered me. FUCK YOU JUST FUCKING FUCK YOU. I DONT CARE if other turkish people treated you badly or if you hate turkish politics it has nothing to do with me. I don't care if you hate Islam I DONT OWE YOU SHIT NOW GTFO.

Fuck racism. Your story is heartbreaking and, unfortunately all to common

How hard is it not to text underage girls. Like wtf I’ve been processing some of my own experiences and then with the whole Tana/Cody Ko situation happens and I’m just like. wtf. I’m 28 and I have never even had the start of an inkling of a desire to text or hang out with an underage boy. Like wtf? Seriously. I was groomed by at 35yo married man when I was 15/16. And then recently I happened to be looking at old Facebook dms and realized I had, not one, but TWO other men in their late 20s/early 30s bantering with me at like 16/17. What the hell. And I am honestly just so mad. How many men think this is acceptable? Is it a loud minority or is it this huge portion like it feels like it is? Even if I had been 18, what the hell would I have in common with a man in his late 20s, hell, even mid 20s. Why. Literally why.

As an adult male in his 40s, I can tell you categorically it's really very easy indeed not texting underage girls! WTF is wrong with these 'men', in the UK we'd just call the paedophiles and, for the most part, ostracise them. In America, they just seem to join the Republican Party and do very well for themselves!

For his birthday in March, I got my boyfriend a vintage leather suitcase similar to one he had been admiring for a while. It wasn’t expensive but it did involve going to several antique shops and garage sales and second-hand clothes&accessories online groups to find it. For my birthday last week, my boyfriend had sex with me. We have an active sex life. I didn’t even realize it was supposed to be my gift until he later told me it was. We had sex 9 times that weekend (we went away on holiday, which I organized). It’s not like I didn’t like the sex we had, and I’m a very sexual person, which he knows. He probably thought that this would be something that I would like, but it’s like, we have sex several times a week, I did love that night but I just feel like good sex is a normal part of any healthy relationship and not supposed to be an extra? I told him that that made me feel like he had put zero thought into making me happy for my birthday, and that a gift that is also for himself isn’t a gift at all. That I don't want material crap as presents and that's not what this is about, and that I would have preferred he had done nothing for my birthday than doing this. Because that made me feel like sex is transactional for him and that that lovely night we shared only happened because he felt like he had to do something for my birthday. And now I keep thinking that he sees sex as something that he does for me out of obligation (he says it’s not the case, but I feel how I feel). I'm posting here because I'm done talking about it with him and I realize he had good intentions and I know a marathon like the one we had on Saturday was probably very physically demanding of him. I don't want him to feel like I don't appreciate him but I don't know what to do about the way I feel about it now. I told him not to do that again and he said he won’t, and apologized. Said he wanted to give me a night to remember. He also asked if I wanted him to get me another present and I said that wasn’t the point. He tried to initiate sex last night and has sent me cute texts all day today but I still can't get myself in the mental headspace to enjoy that because I still feel (even though he tells me it's not the case!) that he's doing that stuff for me and not because he wants to or feels it. I guess I gotta chalk this up to relationship growing pains and figure out how to deal with these feelings.

Birthday sex is like a birthday cake, you don't need to get/give it the the birthday person... but if you do... its not their present 🤣🤣🤣

We are being absolutely fucking pummelled into homelessness and hunger while we fund every fucking thing going on in other countries. We are nobody to the US government. We are being intentionally made to be EXTREMELY POOR and living in absolute fucking POVERTY. WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON??

It’s because corporations and the government are one in the same here. The 1% own and run everything. They’re hoarders, and the only way this will get better is if we redistribute the wealth back to the people who work for it.

So I (34M) have been seeing this girl K (34F) for a while. Gone on a few dates and talk pretty much every day. I invited her over for a movie night yesterday, and she accepted. I cleaned my place and got everything ready. So she came over yesterday. We watched a movie and cuddled on the couch. After the movie, she used my bathroom and then went home. I talked to her today and she told me she wasn't interested in seeing me again because she noticed the "women's toiletries" in my bathroom and was turned off. I'm like....what? And she said it was the women's deodorant and the perfume. ...the women's deodorant is a tiny stick I use as my travel deodorant, and the "perfume" is like the smellgood stuff from Bath and Body Works my mom got for me. I think she thinks I was trying to see her behind the back of my girlfriend or something? I just can't help but laugh. Like I'm supremely bummed because I think she really did like me and now I have to start all the way over back at square one, but I'm just gonna let it go and not let it bother me.

Probably for the best. She could have just asked you about it like an adult. Though as a man I know many of us tend to just lie and cheat anyway so I see how she misconstrued that lol

I'm 14 now. Never got a party, happy birthday or anything. My birthday is just any other day. I hope someone can wish me a happy birthday to make me happy. I never get anything for my birthday.

Ayy, happy birthday man! Being 14 can be a minefield but I'm sure you're gonna be fine (can't say much since I'm only 16). I know that having a birthday on quarantine can be pretty shitty, specially because you really can't leave your house and hang out with people. Here's what to do in your birthday (quarantine edition): 1- play your favorite games! I LOVE portal and I've been playing since the day portal 2 was released. I finished P2 countless times but I still love it. 2- listen to some music. I really suck at dancing, but it just feels so good to let your body move in the way it wants to. I've been listening to the Forza Horizon 5 trailer song every single day and I can't get enough of it. 3- read some books. Recently I've been reading The Legends of Zelda books and I really love it. Totally recommend it 10/10! 4- hang out on discord. I see a lot of people on public servers looking for someone to play with. They have everything, rocket league server, terraria, Minecraft, CSGO, EVERYTHING!! I know it's all simple things but it can help a little bit. Also just wanted to say that English is not my mother language, so ignore the misspellings lol. Again, happy birthday my guy Edit: ay, thanks for the reddit silver thing. Never got one of those so yeah, cool!

Basically what the title says. I’m 110 days clean of SH with nobody to tell. I’m really proud of myself as I managed to pull myself out of the darkest time in my life on my own. This means I have nobody to share my accomplishments with so I’m putting them here so at least it feels like I’m telling someone. Edit: Thank you so much for all of the support I’m truly grateful. It really means a lot!

Letsgoooo that’s great, keep it up

thank you for listening.

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no not women who are in the military, they have my respect I'm talking about women who make it their whole personality that they have a husband in the military i see them on facebook posting shit like: "i'm a marine wife, the hardest job in the fleet" so fucking cringy, maybe you should celebrate your own accomplishments imagine if some guys started a community of "pilot spouses" as in men who have pilot wives

Then say "military wife". Military women are women in the military.

it kinda really sucks. im half japanese and half white. i grew up around a lot of my white family since my dads side is in japan. i grew up with them doing shit like any time we went into a asian resturaunt they would say i made it "look authentic". bro we r in fucking panda express. pf changs. shut the fuck up. some of my cousins used to be weeaboos too and they would be so fucking weird to me. one of my cousins said that i should live in a horse stable. my mom always makes fun of me for being asian and not knowing much about tech. i tell her it makes me uncomfortable but she says im being too sensitive. fuck off. &#x200B; edit: hey, just wanted to add a couple of things A) the way my white family racist isnt exactly hatred for other races, its more fetish-y. for examply my mom told me that she thought no one would ever be racist towards me and just see me as "a cool mix-y mix-y person" and that was why she never gave me the "race talk" (even though when she and my dad first had me they went to a fast food place in the south and got treated horribly for being a mixed race couple + having me) B) the horse stable comment. she told me that when we were both young, i dont remember exactly how old we were but we were probably around 11-12? we were talking about how our lives would be different if we lived in the past ("we wouldnt have phones or tv") and then she just kinda jumped to "you would live in a horse stable" C) My mom is racist. I wont argue that but i think other than that she is still an ok mom. i mean shes really great in a lot of ways and not great in others. actually idk if shes a good mom. tbh i dont think she was ready to be a mom, she grew up with very abusive parents (think The Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls) and I dont know how much shes worked through it as much as shes pushed it away. shes a good room mate tho. D) I have talked multiple times with her about how it makes me uncomfortable but "Cmooooon its a joke!" and "if we cant even joke in the privacy of our own home then theres something wrong here." when were home she says the N word with a hard r. I remember one time I showed her a show i liked called The Boondocks and immediately regretted it. (last night we were finding a show to watch and she landed on one with an asian lead actor and she went "look! its your cousin!". gave her a hard side eye, told her i dont like those jokes and she responded with "cmon!! its a joke" E) One day I would love to live in Japan and get to know my dads side of the family, but for right now its not in the cards for me. I have a really cool job where i live rn and Im starting to get myself back after some pretty bad mental health during the pandemic. I live with my mom rn and honestly, if I have to deal with weird racist comments for free food, housing, phone bill etc, yea ill take it lol

Your mom is a racist. So is mines and my dad isn’t far from how he talks about Asians and Mexicans. It sucks but damn Idk how the fuck it was growing up when our parents did or what kind of racist influences they had from our grandparents/great grandparents. Not an excuse at all still. I honestly just believe we all are racist to some degree or least have our racist moments in life.

People wanna make jokes and say “choccy milk” but never appreciate the true excellence of chocolate milk. It’s the perfect drink, for any age. For any person. One time, I had a hangover and watched frozen 2 and drank 11 cups of chocolate milk. I’m TIRED of these people making fun of the best drink on the planet, chocolate milk. We need more chocolate milk enjoyers on this planet. Planet earth. REAL WOMEN VOTE FOR CHOCOLATE MILK!

Real men vote for chocolate milk too !

Go fuck yourselves. All of you. You’re the worst.

ONG! It doesn’t seem like it was ever THIS bad the previous console generations

I feel so GOOODDD. I love my hair, my skin, my nose, my eyes, my toes. I love my legs and arms. I’m beautiful and nobody can convince me otherwise! For so long I thought my skin color and hair texture made me ugly. I had been bullied and have received backhanded compliments for both. Then I realized how beautiful I am! I’m a little chubby, but that’s ok! I’m healthy and happy, and that’s all that matters. To anyone reading this, you’re perfect just the way you are! As long as you are happy and healthy, no one else’s opinion matters! You can also love your body and strive to get healthier! Have a good day peeps!! ❤️💞 Edit: This gained so much attention! Glad I could make so many of your days! Thank you all! 🥰❤️💞

This is the energy we need in 2020! Be happy for who you are, and don't let others bring you down!

Some guy literally told me it’s ok for men to be fat but not women. Someone else told me that he likes to fuck ‘fatties’ because they are easy and he uses them for practice. Another told me he hopes I die of diabetes. But he cried and moaned about how mean I am because I told him he better stay the fuck away from me before I suffocate him to death with my fat ass. And how I shouldn’t shame men for having “preferences” Like bitch bullying women to make them feel like shit is not having a preference, that’s called having a small dick. What the fuck is wrong with some of y’all. Edit: Just to clarify, I am a woman, and I like men. I am simply speaking from experience. Does the word “some” mean nothing?

My ex had an entire Instagram act w his friends dedicated to making fun of fat girls for their own sick comical pleasures. Honestly, I needed to see this lol such a pathetic loser.

Reading "I promise I'm paying, you know me" and then seeing your stupid vacation pictures or your new piano is discouraging AF. I don't lend money, specially if it's someone whose relationship I care about. I don't care if it's the person I trust the most, asking for it back and not getting it is SO damaging and tiring. If I ever start lending any, it will be when I'm 100% sure I won't need it back, and there's a long road ahead before that happens. Just, if you ask for money make it your priority to pay it back, simply because that money IS NOT YOURS, and someone went out of their ways to lend it to you. AAAAAAAAAAAA

it’s funny how the longer someone doesn’t pay you back the more it feels like it isn’t your money anymore and then you feel extra awkward bringing it up.

I met my boyfriend last year near the end of the year actually. everything was going great between us and everything was fine until he started saying stuff like “oooh your so fat” and pointing out girls in the street and saying “she’s so pretty why can’t you look like that” or just blatantly calling other girls pretty in front of me without mentioning me. The other day I went to order McDonalds and he looks at my order (6 piece nugget and a small coke) and he goes “this screams you’re fat, do you really wanna order this? You’ll get more unattractive than you already are” I don’t get this at all because sometimes he’s showing me love by cuddling me and kissing me and telling me he loves me, but he just says shit like this all the time and it hurts my heart more and more everyday. (thanks for listening)

Break up. Seriously. There’s no sugarcoating this. I know it’s hard but you really can’t deal with this for much longer. A. He has a problem with himself and he takes it out on you. B. He’s an asshole. C. He’s trying to make you hate yourself.

I’ve been with my partner for almost 5 years and I just remembered another reason why my old friend wasn’t good for me. When my partner and I got together, we were very serious about our relationship. After all, we didn’t become official until 6 months after we began to see each other and go on dates, we took our time and got to know each other. My old friend would get so annoyed about how much I liked him, I wasn’t talking about him all the time or anything? I would text him like anybody else does, they always texted their boyfriend too when we hung out and it wasn’t a big deal, it was normal. They kept saying, “You’re just in a honeymoon phase.” They were basically saying, this is just the lovey dovey phase, it’ll go away and you’ll get tired of him. Well my feelings never changed and I still love him as much as the day we first went out on our first date, same for him. He surprised me with a picture frame of pictures from our first date this week. This is the same old friend who used to keep telling me to just break up with my boyfriend if I ever said one little bad thing about him, I wasn’t even asking for their advice. Like bruh I’m not breaking up with him because he didn’t answer the phone 😂 That’s bad unsolicited advice.

They probably all have super unhealthy relationships and have likely never seen a happy, healthy one. Hats off to you for not letting their pessimism get to ya 👌

Like- I know autistic people can have overwhelming emotions and “act out” and that’s not an issue at all! The issue is when people blame their autism on everything they do. “Oh they sexually abused their niece since she was three? It’s just the autism there’s nothing we can do she’ll get over it.” Yeah well now said niece is fifteen and still hasn’t gotten over it. His autism was never the problem, the problem was him never facing consequences past an hour in his room. Like- I’ve literally spoken out against this shit and how I’d have to hit him just to get him off of me and then I’d be called abliest for protecting myself? Either way it’s a bad road. Don’t villainize disabilities like that. My uncle putting his hands down my pants and telling me he’s going to r@pe me in my sleep isn’t a product of his fucking autism. It’s a product of people not wanting to hold him responsible for anything. Edit: Guys he hasn’t been able to touch me since I was about twelve. He came close in October but it didn’t happen. My mom picked me up and took me home. I have ways of avoiding these things, please don’t tell me to search for a new home. I love my family, and I don’t want to move to my dads. He can’t afford that, and the foster system is extremely corrupted. I can’t go to the police, when he had a case it was excused because of his autism. I just wanted to vent about it. Thank you for hearing my story and putting your input in. It’s heartbreaking that these things happen but it’s comforting to know that I’m not alone. I share my condolences to anyone else who has gone through something similar. I also thank those of you for confirming that this in fact is not normal and that I’m not being ableist. Thank you so much for not shrugging this all off. I’m greatful for every single one of you :)

Exactly this! Have autism, can confirm that is NOT normal. His parents never set proper boundaries with him as a child, and are refusing to take responsibility now.

This country is so fucked. The government system is failing. Nothing gets done anymore because all the politicians are trying to fight each other on every single fucking thing. Whatever happened to thinking about the people and not money, and just doing what is right to help the populace prosper? The cops are dirty pigs. They all protect their own even when their own are fucking murderers. And then they get away with it with slaps on the hands. The rapists and molesters and pedophiles get slaps on the hands too. But you can get life for marijuana??? Apparently that makes sense? Everything is over priced, and jobs are underpaid, so to get anywhere in life you have to become a slave to your job just to survive. Or if you want a college degree have fun with thousands in debt for years to come. And that's hoping you get a job in your field. Our hospital system is fucked too. God forbid you don't have insurance and you need medical treatment.... The public school systems are absolute shit, and tenure is a bullshit excuse to not fire shitty teachers. Half the country is fucking racist, and aren't even afraid to hide it anymore. And the other half of the country can't even handle wearing a fucking mask during a pandemic because it's "infringing on their rights” (yea ok lmao) Or school shootings? Other countries have shown that changing their gun laws helped massively to deter gun violence. But America brushes off mass gun murders like it's nothing....like it's completely fucking Normal. What the fuck ever happened? I thought this was supposed to be the land of dreams. A place where you can immigrate to for a better life? But instead people are met with.... whatever the fuck you want to call America now....I call it a fucking disaster of a country. America is shameful and terrifying and I hate living here. I'm getting out. I've made a plan to become a citizen of Canada. I'm going to study Canada's history and pass that fucking citizenship test, because fuck this shitty country called America. I hate it. Edit: holy shit this blew up while I was sleeping! If any of you are interested actually, my next few posts on my profile have to do with gathering the proper knowledge on how to immigrate to Canada with more in depth information on what to learn about with links! Everyone on r/onguardforthee was super awesome with their links and inviting comments!

Thank you for being brave enough to post. I know it is an unpopular opinion in a country that constantly spouts about being the "best" (of what I'm not sure). Our history and our current self destruction has absolutely made me very unpatriotic. I'm glad I'm not alone. Here's hoping that one day, the real history of our country will be taught in schools and everyone can become a little more self aware.

talking online to a guy for about two weeks, opening up but not sharing pictures until we felt comfortable. we spoke about everything and i poured my heart out to him cause he said it was okay. today he asked me if i was white and once i told him im not, everything we spoke about didn’t matter. he’s simply not interested because i’m black. i cant believe this has actually happened to me and im hurting. why are people so ignorant, you like my personality and if you knew me being black was such an issue you should have spoken up! he ended up saying that he likes other races as well it’s just definitely not black. added in some piss poor excuse saying that he doesn’t like our facial structure. Edit: okayyyy the fact i said “ignorant” is triggering certain people. i stand by what i said. basing your dislike for a race on overall “facial structure” is ignorant.

That’s why when I talk to someone I ask for pictures upfront. If I’m not attracted to you it’s not going to work. To me it sounds like you dodged a bullet.

I’ll spare as many details as I can for their sake, but there was an accidental situation down the street from my house. My neighbor found her toddler dead and had dragged him to the front yard, screaming at the top of her lungs while the paramedics got out of the ambulance. I had heard the screaming and sprinted down the street to see what was happening and if I could help. I’m CPR certified but since the ambulance was a few feet up the street and would be there and working within seconds, I stopped and let them handle it, watched for a few seconds while they assessed him, made sure that the woman’s husband was outside and comforting her before I left so I knew she wasn’t alone, and went home. I walked home and sat in the garage, heartbroken for her. He was blue, and had clearly been gone for a while, and I wasn’t exactly hopeful that he would make it, especially since nobody on scene started CPR before the paramedics got there. I heard her scream one last time about 5 minutes later before I went inside- the whole neighborhood was standing in their yards staring at her, and it made me uncomfortable to witness such a private moment when I clearly wasn’t contributing to the situation. I was, unfortunately, correct, and found out a few days later that he didn’t make it. I didn’t talk to anyone about this. I had seen that kid and his siblings playing on the street daily for a long time, and the whole concept of mortality has always been really hard for me to grasp, but it pretty much smacked me in the face that night. The next morning I woke up and decided I was going to make my way to becoming a paramedic, dropped out of the college classes I was in going for a business major, and signed up for an EMT class at a private company. It sounds silly, but I’m about a month into training, and I’ve realized this is what I love and am passionate about. This is the job for me. And I think about that kid a lot. Idk why I’m venting this here, but probably because I don’t want to tell anyone else why I signed up to be in EMS. Being “inspired” by a tragedy seems really fucked up to me, but it’s why im on the path im on. I just wish he’d made it.

It's hard. We lost a neighborhood kid last week, got hit by a truck while riding his bicycle. Loss of innocence is always sad. Edit: And good on you for following your heart. I hope it works out well for you.

Just wanted that off my chest. Fuck you, D***.

Rapist are scum that deserve only death. Congrats on your piercing.

Edit: I meant pisses... 2020 seniors got celebrity shout outs, yard signs and posters, social media attention, "adopt a senior" programs where they got sent a bunch of free stuff from strangers. I'm a 2021 senior. I have been online all year. I didnt get a first day of a senior year, a homecoming, any sports games, any performances. I won't have a prom, and I didn't get a junior one either. Im not even sure if im having a graduation yet. Its like this in over half the counties in my state and I have friends in other states where its the same deal. And it kind of seems like everyone just forgot about is. I get that everyone's kind of moved on from the initial shock. And im not really one to care about material things or ceramonies. But it still really sucks to basically be told "yeah, you only got 2.5 years of highschool...suck it up". Idk this is a ramble. It just sucks not being acknowledged

You have a right to be upset. My little sister’s a 2021 senior and, while she hasn’t complained much, I still feel awful for her. Just know that I, and many other people, are thinking of kids like you.

Not even using my alt account bc this is pissing me off so much. I’m (Black-)British so the racism probably isn’t as bad as in the US. People make a simple joke about colonisation or bland food concerning White British people and you have everyone saying “tHaT’s RaCiSt”. (Which is fine, bigotry in any form shouldn’t be acceptable) But these same people will say things like cHinG cHoNg and say blatantly racist things about Asians to their faces. Just stop. You’re not fucking funny. Btw I’m a Gen Z so this is extra disappointing. Like, guys, I think we can leave our parents/grandparents’ wack sense of humour behind now.

Thank you for this, I'm glad someone cares. My mom is japanese and my dad is white. I live in the U.S. and I'm literally getting called "ching chong" and "ling ling" at my school. They don't mean anything by it but it really pisses me off. Whenever someone just uses the work "black" in a sentence, those same people automatically say it's racist even when it's not. Then, here they go using actually offensive slurs and don't care. So thank you for being a good human being.

I'm 14, not wanting or seeking any s*x at the moment. I'm willing to in the future but I'm scared of him walking out on me because my genitalia aren't p*rnstar perfect or bleached. I heared this from a few boys in my school that they're willing to walk out on intimacy if her genitalia don't look cute and young or even if they have any strong pigmentation, wich should be considered normal because I know men have it to and it is a completely natural thing. So please people, notice that p*rnstars bleach there genitalia and booty holes to look pinker and that not all vaginas look the same , and can have different textures of skin around that place. I am 100% sure there are also men who experience these insecurities about there genitals, but also for you, having darker pigment and different textures is completely normal.

Any boy that cares about things like that are not worth your time Just be patient and do things when you feel they’re right for you. And it will be awkward and weird for the first.. lots of times you do things, that’s all part of it. It’s a learning experience and there is no class to teach you what to do. Just stay safe and stay a kid for as long as you can, because once you’re grown up there’s no going back. Good luck in life!

(Please check out my latest post for an update) Two days ago while we were I one of the classes I overheard a few people talk in all seriousness about how one of them is planning to rape his girlfriend, my classmates he was talking to supported him in this idea and even gave adv!ce on how to trick her into coming to his house and how to get her drunk so he could rape her. And it was not like they were joking, they were completely serious in all of this. Within the first day in this class I already had a strange feeling about them, every day they keep on proofing to me that they're not to be trusted It really made me uncomfortable, as im a sa survivor and still dealing with a lot of trauma from those events, hearing this definitely triggered me. Edit (a few hours after making this post) I read you guys comments and I'm currently writing an email to my school explaining the situation, unfortunately I do not know who the is, so I hope school will do their part. Due to some other things I'm currently busy trying to transfer schools, so hope school can handle this well with the information i provided. I'll keep you guy updated

Alert someone.... his gf at least!

Honestly, I hate it. I can’t even talk to anyone about it except for my friend, and all they say is ‘I understand,’ but to be honest, they don’t. The one time I actually asked a boy out, he called me the f-slur and spit on my shirt while walking away. I can’t tell my parents because i’m afraid and I just feel lonely. It feels like I’m in a little void by myself and I can’t leave it. Whenever I try, I just get pushed back in it farther. Please help. If you can. And if you want to try to help by saying ‘it’ll get better’ or whatever, please kindly leave this post and just scroll because I can’t handle hearing that or seeing that phrase again. I’m sorry if this post seems selfish by asking for help by the way. I don’t know how most of this works, especially the posts, but this is my last resort. Thanks.

You need to find your community friend. Go out and find people who make you feel home and understood

Ik this gets posted quite a bit but i need to vent and get this off my chest. Just want to preface this by saying that these are my feelings and so im not saying that all women should feel this way. - I hate being weak and small. Yeah ik i could go to the gym and i do but I’ll never be as strong as a man and cant defend myself if my life depended on it (assuming no weapons are involved) - periods. Do i need to explain? They hurt. Walking around in blood for days is gross to me (not saying that periods or people on their periods are gross but i just hate it). Products are expensive. I feel unproductive. And im south asian so my culture has A LOT of stigma around it and i am treated as if i am this dirty/ unclean/ untouchable disgusting contagious thing by the people in my family and this really affects my mental health - giving birth and pregnancy. Once again, dont need to explain. I dont think it’s a “gift”. I think it’s cruel to put someone through that and there is nothing enjoyable about it. Also i dont want to die. - on that topic, abortion bans and trying to get rid of contraceptives and the pill. Like what?! - The fact that stuff like ppe and car seats are tested/ based on the male body so women can get hurt using them - im scared to leave my house. Heck, sometimes im even scared in my house when the doorbell rings and im not expecting anyone. And when i am expecting people, i have to call them to make sure that it’s them first before answering. - i have been cat called since the age of 9. I remember the first time, i was walking with a friend and a guy in a car asked me if i wanted to get in 😀 - the fact that femicide still happens in a lot of places - i feel like i will never be seen as a person because i am not a man - i hate being assumed to be submissive or having to take “submissive roles” in comparison to men I could go on but those are the things on my mind right now. I just wish that sexism was taken more seriously cuz imo it’s too normalized and this society “needs” it in order to keep things the way it is 😤 And no. This post is not to say that men dont go through their own thing before i get comments like that. But this is my experience and im allowed to talk about it

I agree with your post 100%, especially the being scared to leave your house part. It’s so hard having to be on guard 24/7 even in my own home and backyard. I’m so sick of not wanting to leave my house because of the fear of what can happen to us. I was at a park yesterday reading and it made me so sad that I couldn’t just enjoy it without looking over my shoulder constantly. I even want to start taking walks so I can get in better shape, but I’m way too scared to go alone. I hope someday things will get better. Or maybe in another life. Best wishes to you friend.

I support it completely! Listen, i know some people are against stuff like that and he’s 13 so he’s a little young to be dating period, but i don’t know, he’s so open about it, and he never has friends and gets bullied a lot, so im happy he found someone to like that likes him too. She makes him things like bracelets and gifts and they’re two cute little bullied kids who like each other. I love that they are so nice and kind to each other, even if it’s temporary. Its the first time hes shown interest into someone. Edit; the quotes are because I emphasized it like he did when he told me. Also, he’s 13; it’s his first relationship and a school relationship so there’s a 3% chance it’s serious and going to work out, lets not be bigots in here lets just be supportive of him finding someone to enjoy being with.

That’s cool man just treat it as if he was dating any other girl and please don’t emphasize the trans part too much, it may seem like kids don’t know shit at that age but I knew I was a trans man since before I can remember. A relationship that young might not be shit but its cool that you support him no matter who he likes and shit it’ll make him a better man.

I have a credit score of 750, about $3000 in savings, author of 10 books, wrote an app in the play store, an 3,000 investment portfolio, two college diplomas and I make 22 an hour as an armed guard. But just because my income is $2000, and I can't find rent below $5,000 a month, I'm automatically ineligible to be dating and criticized for the attempt. Seriously, fuck you and the horse you rode in on, I should be just as happy as the next couple, and there isn't any excuse for you to judge me as a result. Update: well since some people don't understand the concept of hyperbole, here are the literal numbers. 22 an hour for a minimum of 36 hours. Yes, most often I will get 48+ hours, but 36 is all I'm guaranteed per week, and I'm paid biweekly. So that's something like $3000 monthly, keep in mind that's before taxes, which drops that number to $2100. I just checked Craigslist, none of the apartments or rooms for rent are less than $1750, utilities are extra, so no, I can't afford it. Update 2: a lot of people seem to think it's as simple as move to a cheaper location. I'm not sure if you realize that my rate of pay won't travel with me.

If 2 homeless people couple up they can afford rent. Not sure why this would be discouraged.

another content warning, this is going to be pretty graphic. my sister committed suicide in our garage two days ago. i had just gotten home when it happened but nobody realized she was missing until my dad came home an hour later. he cut her down and immediately called 911 and started cpr. he ran to the front door and screamed for my mom to come help. me and my two little brothers both heard him yell and we went to the front door wondering what happened. i put my shoes on and went out to the garage to see what was happening, my brothers stayed in and told me to update them later. i saw someone laying on the ground next to a ladder and my dad doing compressions on them. my mom was kneeled at her head ready to give breaths. i didn’t see the rope above us. i didn’t even recognize that it was my sister until i ran over to help with cpr since neither of my parents knew what they were doing. i tipped her head back to open the airway and noticed the marks on her neck. i thought they were stretch marks. i didn’t even think about suicide yet. as my dad did compressions her body made groaning noises. i thought she was still alive but unconscious. i heard the sirens coming. i ran to the end of the driveway to wave them down. two ambulances pulled into the driveway, followed by multiple police cars. the medics rushed in and i heard the AED start talking. i brought my dogs inside to stop them from barking and i saw my littlest brother standing in the kitchen terrified. the red and blue lights flashed and reflected off his face. i ushered him downstairs with my other brother and told them everything was gonna be alright, don’t be scared. everything’s okay. i’ll be down soon. as i took him downstairs i passed a picture of my little cousin and saw the ambulance lights reflecting on his picture. i quickly came back outside to my parents who were talking with an officer. my mom was hyperventilating and breathing really hard. he told us we have the best medics in the area and to not panic. the elder of my two younger brothers came outside and i told him to go back in and i’d explain later. i told him to tell my littlest brother not to panic. neither of them knew what was happening yet. a minute later a medic came out and said “there’s nothing we can do, he’s been down too long.” my parents broke down and started hugging each other crying. tears came but i felt numb. the more i replayed what had happened the more i could put the pieces together that it was a suicide. the marks on her neck. the ladder next to her. i hugged my parents while the officer tried to comfort us. he moved us to our front porch to ask us medical questions about her. i went downstairs to get her medication to give the officer. i checked the mirror as i walked past to make sure my brothers wouldn’t be able to tell i was crying. i didn’t want them to panic. i smiled at them as i went to grab the meds. they were playing video games. i went back upstairs and gave them the meds. i sat on the ground in front of my parents as they cried. i answered the officer’s questions when my parents couldn’t think of words to say. i can’t blame them. they had just lost a child. my head was in damage control mode and was focused on helping everyone in any way i could. the officers went to retrieve her phone and wallet and keys. while they were gone my dad said “how do they know to stop cpr? i would’ve kept pushing all night.” he cried so much. so did i. so did all of us. my dad stood up to go see her again. my mom pulled his arm and he said “what are they going to do? yell at me?” so they went together. they came back with her phone and it was all in spanish, because she wanted to immerse herself in order to become fully fluent. she was incredible. once we figured out how to change the language they checked her phone for any signs and couldn’t find anything. except a call she made to my dad. but it didn’t go through, his phone never rang. my dad broke down again. “she tried to call me. why didn’t it ring?” he said so so many times. they asked if we wanted to see her one last time before they took the body away. and i followed my parents to the door of the garage. i saw her feet and her hair sticking out from the ends of the white cover they had put over her. i saw the shape of her stomach and legs. i saw the bright yellow rope hanging above her body, frayed from the saw used to cut her down. i couldn’t go in. i sat next to the tree in the lawn until they were done. i texted my partner because i didn’t know what to do to fix this. nothing could fix this. when they came back out, my parents asked the officer how we could possibly tell the boys. my dad stood and said “let’s just agree now, we won’t even tell them this was a suicide.” i protested, they deserve to know how their sister died, they’re going to ask how it happened, but the officer said that it wasn’t fair to put the guilt associated with suicide on them. especially the littlest. he’s only 10. i agreed that i couldn’t put him through the pain of blaming himself. i told the older of the two boys later that day but he had already figured it out. my parents also eventually told him later that night. my littlest brother started blaming himself anyway, even though he doesn’t know it was a suicide. “if i was watching different youtube videos this morning she would’ve come and watched with me, and this wouldn’t have happened.” i told him there wasn’t any way he could’ve changed that day to make things better. it was just bad luck. we never found a suicide note. we don’t think she was planning it. we think it was an impulse decision she made in a dark moment. i miss her dearly. we all do. the amount of tears our family has shed is more than i can count. we put her transgender flag outside. it’s beautiful.

I’m so very sorry for your loss. I hope you all are able to get through this and God bless your sister, she’s in a better place now. I’ll keep you all in my prayers.

Some fucking areas will get hotter, some cooler, but for most places, it means just more erratic weather and extreme events like what we’re currently seeing in the Midwestern US and Texas rn. More extreme heat/droughts in the summer, and more extreme spells of freezing in the winter. Fucking Dumbasses. ^(Sorry, I just got my wisdom teeth out, and browsing Reddit/Twitter for a while in the waiting room made me kinda miffed about it all. Normally I wouldn’t make a post about this, but rn I’m mostly just typing all of this to keep my hands busy and my mind off the freezing wearing off. Blegh.)

Just let these dumbasses see summer

My mom died yesterday, all alone in a nursing home. I couldn't see her for the last 6 weeks of her life due to the COVID-19 virus. She was doing great the last time I saw her 6 weeks ago, which happened to be her birthday. She was sharp as ever; she had every bit of her mind intact as well as her sense of humor (she would swear at Trump every time she saw him on TV). She moved into the nursing home some years ago after her arthritis made ADLs difficult for her. I brought her four of her favorite rum-soaked Italian pastries for her birithday - I told her two for today, two for tomorrow. She ate all four :). While we were celebrating, the administrator came in and said that they were shutting down visitation that evening due to the virus. When I left I kissed her goodbye and told her I'd be back soon. That was the last time I saw her. The virus entered the facility and eventually made its way to her, along with at least 8 other residents and at least one nurse dying and around 50 positive cases, probably more, since March. Her decline was sudden and swift - laughing and eating heartily on Friday, her nurse calling me Monday to tell me the end was near. It tears me up inside I couldn't be with her at the end. Was she scared? Did she ask for me? I don't know, I'll never know. I do know that I can't give her a proper wake or Mass or funeral. My brother (only other sibling) and I can't be together because he lives out of state and can't travel. Dad passed years ago. Mom was Italian, so in normal times the relatives would be swarming the house bringing hugs, food, wine and memories to share. But now my daughter and I grieve alone, just like all the other families who have the horrible misfortune of losing a loved one during this terrible pandemic. You don't realize how valuable the rituals of death and grieving are until you don't have them. There's no final goodbye at the funeral home, no comforting traditions. You're looking at photos of caskets and urns online and docu-signing contracts with the funeral home without ever meeting anyone in person. It feels like a bad, surreal dream. So excuse me if I think people are incredibly fucking selfish when I hear them complain about "their rights" to go to a bar or to get their hair and nails done. This virus is real, and it's deadly. You'll get your bars and mani-pedis back eventually. Those of us who have lost someone during this pandemic will never get back lost time with our loved ones. Those nurses and CNAs and housekeeping staff died because they went to work. Suck it up, buttercups. I would gladly lock myself in the house for the next year if it meant that no one else would ever have to go through this. Except maybe those idiots blocking hospital entrances. They can go fuck themselves. Thanks for listening. /vent

Sending you virtual hugs. :'( I'm so sorry that happened. Wherever she may have gone, I hope she's doing great.

my mom cried in my bed today. and i don’t even notice it. when i got home from school, like usual, my mom greeted me and we had lunch together (my mom is currently a housewife). like usual, i told her about my day at school, the problems with my friends that have recently started (i tell my mom everything because i know i can trust her) and the things i had to study. like usual, we just talked for a while while we ate. she then asked me to stay with me in my room for a while, since my room is very warm compared to the rest of the house and mom was cold. i didn’t think too much about it and said okay. so we got to my room and my mom just laid on my bed, while i did my homework. and she cried. and i didn’t even realise it. my mom has a weird way of breathing, so i just really thought she was asleep and so i didn’t bother her but she was actually crying. she was crying besides me silently and i didn’t realise it until two hours later, when i saw her red and puffy eyes. i feel awful about myself for not managing to understand that she was crying and i want to make it up to her but she won’t tell me the reason for her breakdown. i just want to talk to my mom and let her know i’m here for her just as much as she is for me. i feel awful for not understanding she was crying when she was laying in my bed. edit: thank you everyone for the replies, me and my mom discussed about it ; as i thought, she didn’t tell me the reason for her outburst, but i did tell her that i love her and we hugged and stayed together for a while, cheering her up :)) my mom is better now, emotionally and physically and i hope she can rely on me just as much as i do on her in the future !!

I’d say just tell her plainly exactly what you said that you’re there for her and you love her no matter what, be honest, I’m sure she’ll appreciate it Even if she doesn’t want to talk about why she was crying, you don’t even need to ask just let her know you’re there and you care and you love her & give her a hug maybe