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I got cancer when I was seventeen. I’ve been in remission for like six months but I hate that I got cancer. I was healthy. I was training for a half marathon. What the fuck caused a healthy seventeen year old to get cancer. I couldn’t go to college this year of take AP exams. I have trouble thinking and exercising and staying awake.
Everyone always says “oh but you’re fine now right?” And I nod and say yeah. But I’m not. Nobody around me has been through anything like this. I have permanent heart and lung damage. I’m not gonna live as long as people who are awful but never got cancer. I may have heart failure fucking whenever because of chemo. I could get secondary cancer. Nobody understands the fear doesn’t stop. I am afraid of death constantly and I am only 18. I almost died when I was born due to tachycardia. Nobody understands me.
I don’t want to have health problems as I age but I will. Everyone goes back to living their safe lives and I don’t. | I am 47 years old, I train heavily in martial arts and physical fitness. I compete in martial arts (jui jitsu, MMA) Last April, I injured my abdomen and had a hematoma the night after class. The night of class I injured my ankle pretty well. Wound up going.into the ER. Long story short they discovered i had a mass and had my kidney removed 7 months later. After a month, I finally stopped having fatigue and slowly started exercising and practicing martial arts at home, I missed it so much especially seeing my l classmates belt up and compete etc. But you know what the point of this all is? Im 47 and Im not giving up, youre 17 do t ever think of giving up! Start slow and take your time you will be there again soon. If i at 47 can recover so can you! I believe you can overcome this chemo sucks, the radiation sucks, but I know you can over come it start slow and get back up on your feet and dust yourself off and prove the Drs amd yourself wrong! |
Okay so it’s currently 2 am and I just found out that I got accepted into physiotherapy school first try and no one is awake for me to tell. Bad decision on my part because now I don’t know how I’m going to sleep but oh well, IM GONNA BE A PHYSIOTHERAPIST | Congratulations 🎊 |
She said, "Guys, do your part and respond to depressing posts. I'm tired of doing it alone."
You can stop responding to their posts if you're tired. Take a break if it's exhausting. I don't mean to give a long speech, but it bothers me when others assume that everyone is in the right position to do what others CHOOSE to do. There's a difference between a choice and obligation. You're volunteering to respond to those types of posts out of kindness and being genuine, so you should want people to think the same way. It's not a job.
When I'm feeling low, I can tell the difference between someone sincere and another person who is rolling their eyes and only commenting on something because my post was disturbing. If someone is triggered or traumatized, you can't force them to start counseling others. A lot of people aren't licensed, so opinions will be based on experience. It probably won't work for everyone. I'm choosing not to put myself in the position of counseling because I'm not prepared to get backlash.
Some people don't want encouraging words. They vent, someone will say something positive and they'll label them as being insensitive for only focusing on the bright side and not addressing their issue. I saw it happen and it discouraged me from saying anything.
When others are feeling down, it's hard to see the bright side. It's difficult to understand if you have never been depressed. Some want a solution that strangers can't immediately give. You don't know what they'll want because they're not sure. I have been there. They want the pain to go away.
That's my opinion. I got it from experience and observing and that's the conclusion I made. I don't want to read on psychology about the human brain because it's not that deep for me. I have things I need to work on myself before focusing hard on trying to change every single person's mindset. I know that everyone doesn't react the same way to strangers who want to counsel them.
Please continue doing what you believe you're ordained to do. No one tells you not to do it, but you can't force everyone to do it too if they'd rather keep scrolling. Am I wrong? | I think this is extremely important.
On the internet, and especially on Reddit and on subs like this one, we see a lot of other people's pain. It's great to try and help when it's genuine (and when you keep in mind that not everyone might react how you expect them to), but sometimes it's just too much.
No one is obligated to respond to the world's problems, just because you see something disturbing on the internet doesn't mean you HAVE to try and make this person feel better. Other people are not anyone's responsibility.
It can be harmful to feel that obligation and to give so much energy into trying to help others. It's great when you can, but if you don't feel like it then don't : your energy and mental health matter too.
I think this ideology that's forced on us of always saying something and always being there for everyone is harmful. So thank you, OP, for saying it and making some people feel less guilty about not commenting every single sad/disturbing post they see.
And yeah, even when trying to help, you don't know what other people need, so it might actually be counter productive, we never know. We gotta be careful with what we respond to these posts. |
I hate being an teenage girl it’s like when I automatically grow boobs it seems like I can’t be anywhere near my dad or watch what I’m doing. I’m 15 years old but I had sleep paralysis one day. I kept waking up and experiencing my sleep paralysis so I got out of my bedroom to sleep near my dad who was sleeping on the couch, i felt safe and comfortable. When I woke up my mom yell at me for sleeping near him and I started to cry because she made me felt like I couldn’t see my dad as my dad. The worst part was my dad agree about it and I can’t believe it. I know I have to respect his privacy but I just want to feel the comfort always feel when I use to sleep near him when I was younger.
It makes me feel wrong the way I have to view my dad less than my dad I was always an daddy girl and I would sleep next to him when I had nightmares | That's pretty fucked up that your parents seem to be sexualizing you. |
She really ended our relationship over a fucking zodiac test, the ones that see if your zodiac is compatable. I hate that stuff for THIS EXACT REASON. WE WERE SO WELL BUT A FUCKING STAR SAID NO. SHE SAID "Wait whats your zodiac?" I said it and she blocked me, over that. That was possibly the best relationsip i've been in. I'm done... | I’m
Sorry to say this, but she did you a huge favor. I’m sorry that happened because I know you liked her very much, but you just dodged a bullet with that one 😩 |
Why are you so obsessed with others sexuality?
Why are you so obsessed with others gender expression?
Who fucking cares mind your business. “I don’t want it shoved down my throat” no one is shoving it down your throat. It’s now more open and treated as normal as being a cisgendered person in a hetero relationship. Just say you’re homophobic or transphobic with your chest.
Is some dude going to bust down your door and start fucking his boyfriend in front of you? No
Is some they/them gonna come and sand your cock and balls down to an imitation Ken Doll bald spot? No
Shut the fuck up and stop obsessing about others. Mind your business. | Some people get weird and defensive when they're faced with change I guess. People like to be right, and when they feel their views are being pushed into the minority they get scared and lash out with hatred. Especially if that view point goes against beliefs that are important to their identity.
It really is sad some people feel so threatened by it that it results in violence. Being out as lgbt myself for most of my life I've come across it a lot, but i've also noticed that a lot of the hurtful comments or behavior came from ignorance(not always unfortunately :/ ). Of course it isnt lgbt people's responsibility to educate everyone around them, but imo i've ended up with quite a few friends who would've probably been considered homophobic/transphobic when i met them who ended up being very supportive and understanding when given the opportunity to ask me questions without me lashing out at them. Hopefully with the rise in awareness recently and increase in information people will become more accepting. |
I live in Southern California and because of some unexpected financial situations at the end of last year my family is being evicted. Now I make a reasonable amount of money but we've been renting to prep to buy a house and get out of this fucking tragic circle jerk. Because of the eviction landlords don't give a fuck about how much money I make. I have never been evicted or had any negative real estate marks in my history of living so you'd think that would matter, but not here.
Add to that the cost of living in SOCAL. And then compound that when you have 3 kids. The average rate of a rental near me is upwards of 2k for a 2 bedroom apartment. Which is a fucking joke. This place is a black fuckin hole and I currently cannot see a way out. Fuck this place. Fuck this rent. And fuck you if you're in real estate and adding to the problem. | I’m in CA as well and it’s the absolute worst. I hate living in a place where households that make $500k+ are lower class. They’re actively trying to kill us poor people which sucks because I’m a farmer and we’re literally dying because we can barely survive |
(pissed at my parents because they apparently don't know how to properly close a door and always leave it semi-open when they leave my room) I like my bedroom door closed because it's quieter that way and I can concentrate better on things I'm working on. I don't know why that is so hard to understand for my parents, they always think I'm trying to hide something. | I have the opposite problem I like my door open and my dad closes it all the time |
Today is his first day. The union hasn't gotten back to him, so he is working at a personal electrical business for now. I'm so proud of him! He's my big strong guy. He is so lucky to be able to be an electrician so young. When he told me with a big smile that he was hired I almost died!!! I just... AAAA HE'S ACCOMPLISHED ONE OF HIS BIGGEST GOALS AND I FEEL SO HAPPY FOR HIM!!!! my baby ;-; | YESSS!! |
Hi, I'm (24f) an Israeli Jew. I just saw an article on the news about all the antisemitism in Europe. I'm going on a solo travel to Rome soon. I'm excited but also scared. I just want to get away from all of this, I hope I'll be able to do it in my trip and that I'll be safe (I won't tell people that I'm from Israel of course). I'm sick of this war. I'm sick of hearing about people who died, women who were raped, babies who were kidnapped. I wish this all would stop and everybody could live in peace. This world could be amazing, but people are ruining it. | So long as you don't think or say things such as "they had it coming", I doubt you will face any antisemitism. Usually, the sentiment is reserved for extreme right wing folk who justify the settling, apartheid and violence towards the palestinians. Obviously, there is still antisemitism in the world, but those who are spouting nonsense and accusing all jews have always had these feelings, and it's not a result of the genocide. Please refrain from referring to this as a war, as people in Israel are largely safe whereas the death toll in Gaza is much, much higher.
Oh, and I do hope you stay safe, the fear is understandable. |
I'm excited bc this year I'm gonna be able to celebrate with my family!!! Just wanted to share that! | Happy birthday |
We’re downvoting you because you’re a sexist asshole who thinks that women should be completely trusting and open and friendly, and completely forget about the possibility of being raped/assaulted in public because “dOnT tHeSe GiRls KnOw tHaT tHeRe ArE NICE GUYS oUt ThErE wHo WoNt dO tHaT!?!?1”
Yes, we know there are nice guys out there who won’t do that, but if you’re getting mad at women for prioritizing their safety over your happiness, you’re not one of the nice guys who won’t do that. | Yeah ppl seem to also forget A LOT if not most women are taught from early childhood that "men only want one thing" "men are bad" "stay away from boys" and it progresses into being told to carry mace, never leave a drink unattended, dont walk alone at night. Just because you arent the problem doesnt mean we can undo lifetime and generations of mental conditioning just for you. Its really nothing personal. Most women know a victim or some were a victim. Although many of us are aware most perpetrators of these crimes are repeat offenders and most men probably wouldnt do such a thing we just dont know who is good or bad just by looking at the way you smile or speak. Idk if that makes sense but i tried to word it right. |
I've been through a lot, more than I care to say really, and my parents are starting to notice I haven't exactly been the most.... healthy, at least mentally. Instead of talking to me about it, they're taking away some of the things that actually make me happy and help me escape (They already took my phone, ps4, and my computer away. Currently typing this using an old laptop from 2006 I had under my bed.) I just don't get how they expect the depression to just magically exit my body once they take shit away. This has the same effect as telling someone with ADHD to "just concentrate". I even told them why I was this way and they told me it's "unreasonable" to act like this. It isn't an act.
Since it's probably important to list this now, I'm depressed because both my grandfather passed and one of my close friends committed suicide within the same week. If you think it's unreasonable to be depressed about this, please tell me why. | Easy scapegoat.
It's easier to blame something you see all the time than really get to the issues |
my brain is back in that mode where it convinces me everyone hates me and no one actually gives a shit they’re just indulging in the positive aspects of my character and using me. its fucking infuriating. i always say to people close to me the logical side of my brain knows this self deprication is all bullshit and im giving too much credit to my anxiety but then the emotional side kicks in and washes away all that logic and that anxiety takes full control. i become distrustful of everyone around me, even when they say things that are positive my brain finds a way to twist it into that absurd narrative. i definitley have trust issues and i cant figure out how the fuck to get over those and im fucking sick of it. i love life and i fuckin hate it. im a 22m so i get my perspective is limited but that doesnt make it feel any less fucked than it does now. thoughts?
| All of that is a coping mechanism from your anxiety, you've got a constant case of fight or flight going on, from the sounds of it, and your mind is trying to choose both and fighting against itself in the process. It's a coping mechanism because that overthinking process is a way to externalize and rationalize those anxious feelings, but it's an unhealthy one and you can train your mind to break that pattern with some effort.
Some advice from someone with a bit more mileage; think less, do more. If you let yourself get caught up in overthinking every little thing your anxiety brings to your attention, you'll get bogged down and start to self-isolate. Look into mindfulness, practice some meditation, and more importantly maybe, get yourself out of the house and hang out with your friends. Ignore that part of your mind trying to tell you those self-destructive (yet internally, self-protective) thoughts about how they're just tolerating you or taking advantage, and just interact without thinking too much, as much as you can. Accept that your people will always be there for you, and if they're not, they're not your people. And trust that.
Momentum helps. Especially socially. It doesn't take all that much, really, but once you retreat into your shell, it can be difficult to feel you're ever safe to come back out again. If you're already there, baby steps are fine. Any forward momentum is good momentum. |
I just walked into the kitchen to ask him something while he is cooking, he made himself some pasta to eat while he cooks (neither of us has eaten yet today, no he didn’t offer me any)
When I walked in he threw the bowl of pasta in the sink to hide it(????) and went to the chopping board and started chopping some vegetables. He had bits of food around his mouth/in his beard and it was falling onto the chopping board!!
I was obviously taken aback and disgusted, I told him it fell from his mouth and he pushed it off the board with the knife (part stuck to the knife - a beige mush substance because the food that fell was wet) and kept chopping!
I feel so sick, he is by far the most disgusting person I have ever met. I’m so tired of this. I can’t even kiss him without feeling sick because he gets pools of saliva at the corners of his mouth and food around his mouth even hours after eating.
over 10 years of trying to teach him personal hygiene and general consideration of others. | How the hell do guys like this get partners? lmao this shit blows my mind man, as a single dude for like five years, holy shit i must be introverted af hahaha |
IVE BEEN ON THE TOILET FOR 4 FUCKING HOURS AND IVE TRIED EVERYTHING INCLUDING ANGLING MYSELF OVER THE TOILET BUT THIS STUPID TURD REFUSES TO SLIDE OUT IVE JUST BEEN FARTING WHY THE FRESH SMELLING FUCK DOES IT TAKE 7 YEAES FOR SHIT TO COME OUT THE ASS ARE YOU SCARED BITCH OOOO SCARY TOILET WATER COME OUT ALREADY
update: it came out shortly after i posted this i guess it was afraid of my anger | SITTING ON THE TOILET FOR THAT LONG IS HOW YOU GET HEMMORHOIDS |
Multiple times, consensually. It feels very icky to think about and i dislike that it happened but it happened and idk what to do about it. Im sharing anonymously bc i feel like i cant tell anyone i know bc its fucking gross and idk what to do | Dreams are just brain farts. I once dreamed about getting fucked by an old ass man even though i'm a stright dude |
I’m honestly just at a point where I just might not care anymore. It’s driving me crazy.
I’ve been losing sleep, I’ve been down, I just generally hate how things have been going lately.
I don’t like the idea of being a full blown whore. I don’t want to fuck the whole town or anything. I just am so frustrated and alone that if I feel desperate enough; I’ll download tinder, which in my area, the pickings are slim.
I just want to be held right now. I don’t want to be alone. I wish someone was here with me.
Idk, maybe I’m just being dramatic. Life just feels bland and dull. This has been my rant for the night….
Clarification: I meant whore more in the sense of being promiscuous and not full on prostitution, since it seems that people took the title of my venting literally. | You will run into some trashy men that way |
Yes, you.
I just want to hold you for hours, rub your back, feel your amazing smell... snuggle with you while we sleep, listen to your breathing, stories, worries... that sweet voice of yours.
I just...love you, that's all.
Yeah, don't tell me I don't know you. Maybe I don't.
But I know you need to be loved too, to be understood...because you deserve all the best and a lot of people don't give you that.
Yeah, I'm aware of the fact you have dark secrets, thoughts, etc, we all have them. Won't judge you for that, I have some too. Who doesn't honestly?
I just want to kiss your forehead, and tell you that everything will be ok. It won't? Don't worry, we will make it work.
I love you, and always will.
Signed by a random internet girl. | why is this creepy but at the same time weirdly comforting amd wholesome |
I tried my best I really did she was so beautiful I can’t stop thinking about her she done it a few hours ago I lost my little girl I haven’t gotten rid of her I just layed next to her body and cryed it’s my fault I don’t know what to do her name was Ava I just want her back | i am so, so sorry for your loss. i don't even know what to say. i don't know what went wrong but, i am just so sorry for what you are going through. it must be so hard and frustrating, you deserve much better, so is your daughter ava. i'm sending you lots of hugs. |
As a cat person who always says “I like dogs too and probably will get one down the road, but I tend to understand cats a little better”, I find it so weird when Dog People™️ (I use this because I know there are chill dog people out there but yknow what I’m talking about lol) make it their mission to tell you how unfortunate it is that you’re a cat person and that dogs are just so much better and loving. As if cats are some alien creatures that can’t love. Like I’d be fine if y’all just said “yeah cats are okay but I tend to personally get along better with dogs and I just really love dogs more”. Like that I can totally understand and get behind. But when y’all are like “ew cats are so evil, at least I know that my dog loves me”, I can tell IMMEDIATELY what kind of person you are: probably very judgmental and think that your way is the only right way. Idk hopefully this doesn’t come off too mean but this always gets on my nerves. Just because cats have a different love language doesn’t mean they don’t love. I know for a fact that my cats love me and I love them too 🥺 | Have you ever noticed that it’s okay to hate cats, but once you hate dogs there’s something wrong with you? Double standards much? |
I recently made a gay friend who I came out to as bisexual because they insisted to know my sexuality, then all they talked about was sex and tried to convince me to cheat on my wife with them.
They said I’m fighting my sexuality and cheating on my wife will eventually happen because I’ll always wonder what it’s like to be with the same sex. He failed to realized that’s the great thing about being bisexual, I don’t care whether you’re male or female.
If I’m happily married to a woman, then that’s it. I’m not going to wonder about having sex with men or wanting to do it with them, just as much as I’m not gonna wonder about having sex with other women.
He eventually go so obnoxious I began to ignore his messages, and now I feel uncomfortable to be friends with gay people because I’m scared once they find out I’m bisexual they’ll sexually advance me. I know not all gay people are like that, but I rather avoid that same situation happening.
If girls have to deal with things like that with straight males, and I guess vise versa(not very commonly woman obnoxiously advance men), then I am very sorry because that’s so fucking annoying. | Pretty much anyone who makes one thing their whole personality is annoying. Straight dudes that only talk about banging chicks, I went to school with a chick that only liked anime, or dudes that never shut up about hunting. |
I’ve had an absolute dogshit morning, I got up and went in my living room to see my cat eating a piece of pizza??? I don’t know tf he got it, but I took it away and finished getting ready, and then I left. I was already running late for the bus, and I realized I didn’t have my phone, so I had to go all the way back up the stairs and get it, couldn’t find it anywhere, when I eventually found it I turned around to see that my poor cat threw up, so I cleaned it up, by the time I finished there was no way for me to make my bus, so I had to wake my roommate up and ask if she could take me, and I felt SO bad, so I said I would buy her breakfast, so we get to near where I work, about 30 mins away and stop at this drive through coffee place, we each get a drink and a bagel sandwich. The total comes to 30 FUCKING DOLLARS. We park to eat, and they gave me two bottom halves of bagel, and have her two top halves, so I asked if she wanted to swap one half with each other, so we do, and as she puts the top half on my bagel which is on my lap, it slips off my lap onto the dirty floor of the car, open faced. I’m usually not hungry in the mornings but today I was STARVING and I was so excited for my bagel. I’m actually going to rip out my hair this is truly my final straw. It’s so stupid. But I have cramps, my back is killing me, I’ve got a headache, and I just fucking wanted my bagel and my coffee. FUCK YOU UNIVERSE IM SO DONE WITH YOU. | Oh no! Hope your day gets better. |
As a “poc” I really don’t like this term, it makes it seem that “white” is the default while the rest are the odd ones out. | I don't know what term is safe anymore. I've been told to say African American, then when I did I was yelled at by people (all mixed races) saying it's black, now when I do , it happens again, I'm told to say poc.
It goes for all the races besides white, I don't know what the safe term is anymore.
I make this comment out of ignorance not arrogance |
Every single day - literally EVERY single fucking day on the front page of this site, there is GUARANTEED to be at least one "woe is me because I'm a guy :(((" post. A post about how men never, ever receive compliments, about how no one cares about men's feelings, about how men actually get abused more than women and the statistics are just skewed, about how men have literally no advantages in the dating world and women can just date whoever they want, about how men can't even breathe near a child or he'll be called a pedophile, etc., etc., etc. If you just went off of this website, you would legitimately, actually believe that men were the primary victims of rape and sexual assault.
And of course women's lives are all perfect; they receive 10,000 compliments daily and are all beautiful, thin, and attractive and make six figures off their OnlyFans side gig.
A thread about a woman sexually assaulting a man? You can bet your sweet ass that every single comment will be some snarky "WHAT IF THE ROLES WERE REVERSED??" even though absolutely fucking no one in the thread said anything that implies that the man wasn't a victim. Absolutely zero fucking respect for the victims and just using their rape as rage bait and a selfish political football.
I'm a man and it repulses me so much because it reminds me of how much I was when I was younger - everything in the world is everyone else's fault and especially women's. I won't lie and say I've never faced gendered issues in my life, but it's so fucking obvious that Reddit's attitude is just one of pure, unchained bitterness. They don't want to actually make things better as much as they want to feel like the world is out to get them and their life just sucks and women all have perfect little lives by comparison. They won't actually do shit to try solving the problems they care about. They don't want to hear about how you actually CAN form a loving, trusting relationship with a woman but it takes time and effort. They don't want to hear about how there are people who will listen to their problems, but THEY have to open up and communicate. They don't want to hear about how men DO receive compliments often, but they have to put in fucking EFFORT to get them. They chalk everything up to their fucking gender and not their laziness or personal shortcomings.
I've reached out my hand to many men who are struggling with a variety of issues. I want to build a better world for my hypothetical future son to live in. But I honestly just have zero sympathy or respect for the men on this website anymore. It's so unbearably pathetic. | All of this male vs female shit is getting kind of old |
So we are at his parents house and staying in his room. I am working on some art projects while he plays some games on the PS5. He had his turtle beaches on and I am just sitting in silence. His room is right near the kitchen where his whole family was. His sister is talking about Martin Luther King day to their mom and his mom responds, "Oh *HARD R* day?" My face slowly rose to look at my Fiancé who hadn't heard a thing because he was playing Watch Dogs Legion. His sister laughed and said, "speaking of *hard r* where is that cat?" (They have a black cat.) So his mom, sister, dad, AND his sister's fiancé are running around saying, (please don't cancel me for saying it, I will only say it once.) "here niggy," continuously. My Fiancé eventually heard it and pushed a side of his headphones behind his ear. He slowly looked at me, at this point I was sitting in the corner on his bed. I looked at him and said, "They know I am black right?" and he nodded. Boy stood up so fast and was like, "WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU SAYING OUT THERE?!" (marked nsfw cause wasn't sure.) | What happened after the confrontation? What did his family say? Did you guys leave immediately or did you talk to them? What was their reaction? Sorry if I'm asking too much. Just curious. |
I’m in shock and just wanted to say it outloud. I feel like I should be doing something to pick up the pieces but there’s nothing to do but grieve. When I got a call this morning that my dad didn’t show up to work and wasn’t answering his phone I knew what had happened, he’d been battling depression all his life. I couldn’t admit to myself even after it was confirmed and I feel like I’m not yet experiencing the full weight of my reality
| Condolences. Sorry for your loss. |
You know, just to inconvenience the guy. I don't necessarily hate him. I'm sure he worked hard to get what he has. But seriously, $500 million for a goddamn yacht? That's just FUCK YOU money right there. $500 million could do a lot of good elsewhere. I mean, I have to really think whether or not I can spend $6 on a box of cereal that I like. I can't even grasp $500 million, let alone spending it on something that is in no way, shape, or form needed in any capacity. So yeah, fuck you Bezos, and your stupid fuckin yacht. | I'm sure he worked hard at some point in his life. No one has worked hard enough to amass the hoard of wealth he has. if you saved $10,000 a day since the pyramids were built in 2540 B.C. you would still only have one fifth of Jeff Bezos’ net worth. And that math is from a 3 year old tweet, so I guarantee it's gotten worse. |
I hate when they say that, because that's me. I raised me right. | I totally understand your struggle.
While my mom raised me physically she did not raise me mentally.
so when somebody gives me a compliment about my manners or my personality.
I just say it was me Who taught me that.
That’s why I also give myself a compliment on Mother’s Day because I deserve it |
no other context needed. | I was raped by a girl in high school and became a guy like this. I blamed every problem in my life on it - and truthfully, some of my problems _were_ related to it. But not all of them, and it certainly didn’t excuse anything. I’ve been in a really good therapy for 3 years now and I’m able to look back on my behaviours & beliefs and identify which ones are misplaced or completely derivative of that trauma.
I blamed women for my insecurities, for the fact that I’m gay, for my failures in school/social life, etc. It took me 5+ years to understand that trauma is an easy way out when it comes to failure, and the fact that I had other traumas that were even worse than that. |
I get it. I understand. People commenting on your animal care unsolicited is frustrating. But if HUNDREDS of people are saying the same thing, maybe, just MAYBE, you should fucking listen.
I am so sick of creators on other platforms showing off animal mistreatment and abuse for clout. It doesn’t matter if your bird is doing a funny dance, you’re harming it.
Let me just vent about proper animal care for a sec.
Bearded Dragons have COMPLEX CARE NEEDS. You cannot stick them in a 20 gallon fish tank with a uvb and call it a day. These reptiles are among the most commonly mistreated in the hobby.
Hamsters are burrowing animals and require at LEAST a 20 gallon long tank, or a storage bin enclosure, with 2-5 inches of bedding, hiding spaces, toys, and places to climb. This is for ***ONE Hamster***
Betta fish need, **BARE MINIMUM**, a 5 gallon tank WITH a heater and filter. They need places to hide, plants to swim around in, and CLEAN WATER. Fish in general are ***EXTREMELY*** hard to care for if you don’t know anything about the nitrogen cycle
Budgies/parakeets? They need a MUCH larger enclosure than the store tells you. The stupid glass tank they keep them in at a petco? That’s the minimum size for ONE PAIR of keets.
***BIRDS CANNOT HAVE MIRRORS OR BE PET ON THE BACK/WINGS***
Most pet birds cannot recognize themselves in the mirror and believe that the mirror is their mate. That can cause behavioral issues and depression.
Petting a bird on the back or wings is a **Mating behavior**. Your bird WILL think you want to fuck it. It will masturbate. It will inevitably cause a cloacal prolapse which can ONLY be fixed via surgery and risks your birds life.
You **NEED** to take your domestic animals to the vet at *least* once a year. This ***INCLUDES*** large rodents like rabbits and guinea pigs, reptiles, ferrets, birds, cats, dogs, etc.
#Animals are NOT decoration. Do not get a pet for the asthetic, or because someone says they are easy to care for. They are YOUR responsibility and providing them with improper care is mistreatment and can be abusive.
Sincerely, a VERY frustrated animal care student | Can I just add something simple like get your fucking cats neutered?
My neighbours keep getting kittens, don’t neuter them, and then wonder why they’ve fucked off after a year and a half. |
posts comments are full with hentai codes of a child looking character and other minors in the case of toradora. Actual nazis in the jojo subs. Every time you try to say "they're a minor" they either say they're not a minor in japan (13 age of consent) and potentially even ban you from the subreddit. I hate everything about this. | That's the problem with anime, if you don't let weebs do unchildly-fantasy they're gonna be like "hOw doEs soMeoNe dAreS haVinG a dIffErenT opIniOn"
But nazis in the jojo sub..? |
wow I wish my parents would split holy shit they cannot go a week without fighting and slamming doors and throwing shit in the house
Edit: I’m an adult and no longer living with them but I’m just more so concerned because my younger siblings have to deal with it smh | You’re not alone. We were pretty much begging our parents to have a divorce since childhood. It must be such a hard blow to hear from their kids, but parents don’t seem to realize how much of a bad effect it has on their kids to always be in a warzone.
I hope for your sake they split soon and you guys can start your new lives |
im 16 , i found out that one of my cousins who just turned 18 has a months old baby and she was originally pregnant almost 17 . i hear so much how 14-17 year olds get pregnant and just , come on man why cant you stay a kid ?? im scared as fuck to grow up and people are out here having kids . why are so many young girls pregnant ? maybe its just because i wasnt raised to do that but its disgusting , having a baby so young carries so much health risks for both of you . | Statistically, it happens less now than it has at any time in the past (at least in the US) |
I was walking out of a bar pretty drunk and a homeless man asked me if I had any spare change. I whipped out what I thought to be $1 and gave it to him. And then he grabbed my hand and started shaking it. Then he asked me what my name was and when I told him he told me he'd remember that and that I was a good man. I remember thinking this guy must have been on drugs because its $1 man calm down.
I woke up today and I was getting my grocery money set up and the $100 was missing. But I had an abundance of singles. Then it hit me. Now I feel stupid. I probably helped that guy overdose too if you think about it. | There’s an irony in walking out of a bar so drunk that you can’t tell a $1 from a $100 and looking down on someone you merely assume is on drugs. You were actually inebriated by the one drug that destroys more lives than any other.
If you stay sober, you gain 2 things: clarity and empathy for humankind. And if your empathy only extends to the single digits, the clarity will help you not make the mistake of having anyone ever think you’re overly generous. |
So I’ve had a close guy best friend for a few months and we met at uni. He’s a really decent guy or so I thought until something he mentioned yesterday set off alarm bells in my mind. He mentioned to me months before how he was on the sex offender list because a girl from the town he used to live in accused him of raping her. Although he was convicted of it he claimed that she acknowledged that it was a lie she made up just because she was angry or something like that. I never knew what really happened but I believed him at the time.
Yesterday I was talking to him about how I got groped on the train home and he asked me about what I was wearing. I told him I was wearing skirt and a short shirt and he replied with “‘maybe the guy who groped you thought you wanted it” I was really surprised and laughed it off but honestly I can’t help but wonder if it’s a possibility that’s what he thought when he was with her. Is this a big red flag because I don’t really know if I’m overthinking the whole thing. I just want to know if I should cut contact with him to avoid putting myself in danger honestly. | Get away from this man a.s.a.p |
Don’t get me wrong! I’m all for safe spaces, but I’ve been seeing a rapid incline of videos and stuff of celebrating 16 year olds becoming pregnant. Worst one yet was celebrating a 14 year old becoming pregnant and everyone being happy.
Isn’t that a little weird?! I find this hella strange! | Bro that's been going on for a while now. Wish it wasn't normalized cuz that just creates generational trauma and dysfunctional families. But also it could be seen more often now since Roe v Wade was overturned, keeping minors from having access to information on sexual health and preventatives (teenagers are gonna do stupid stuff, the best you can do is give them what they'll need) |
It was cruel to favor comfort over the safety of our older neighbors when this started. Now so many younger people are dying or suffering because we couldn't be bothered to wear masks and stand farther apart in public to contain a virus that *only* killed old or sick people. I have clients who worked in nursing homes and have admitted to going to work sick or traveling out of state then returning to work when it was not recommended. Now they're suffering too. It is wearing me down to hear so many STILL denying science and harming people we should protect. The uptick in younger people dying/suffering feels like karma for our indifference to the death and suffering for our most vulnerable neighbors. I guess my biggest vent is that this has made a lot of people feel hopeless, and hopelessness kills. Suicides have increased. A lot of addicts have relapsed. People who are seriously ill or terminal have no quality of life because the COVID denying crowd tells them to stay home because they won't simply mask or distance for them. People aren't seeing the big picture because they don't hear dozens of stories every week, but I'm painfully aware and powerless to help. It is wearing me down and destroying my faith in humanity. | People would rather see their friends and neighbors die if it meant that they weren't mildly inconvenienced. I hate this planet and everyone on it |
I’ve been really quite about the trauma I experienced growing up around non-black people but I’ve decided to actually talk about it because it’s best to vent. I grew up in area that is diverse but has a lot fewer black people in comparison to the Asians, whites, and Hispanics that live here.
Ever since elementary school I would experience incidents of racism that I would try to brush off and block out but as I got older it became harder to ignore. I’ll never forget when I was in the 5th grade and a little white girl kept on asking me what I was mixed with and she just wouldn’t accept the fact that I am fully black. She would finally just say, “You can’t be black because you’re too pretty.” Needless to say I never played with her again.
In middle school it only worsened, non-black girls really do not understand the depth in which non-black men are casually racist towards black people, specifically black women. Middle school (and now high school) Asian, white, and Hispanic boys genuinely believed that black women are ghetto, loud, and unattractive and any black woman who isn’t like that is an exception and if you try to call them out on their racist ideals they’ll just mask it with “ItS jUsT a PreFeReNcE”.
I’ve always been treated like a token or like an exception by non-black men and it’s honestly disturbing to me. Other black girls at school have literally sent me messages from group chats where boys at school were literally saying that I was “pretty for a black girl” and “if I dated a black it would be her”.
It made me really self conscious and took a toll on my self worth because I was just denigrated to just the black girl and tokenized because of it. I also felt secluded because I can’t help but think any non-black person is racist until proven otherwise.
What’s funny is that I’m in high school I’ve gotten the same treatment. I’m tired of it. | Exactly. I can relate to this for sure. Or I’ve gotten “you don’t act black” or asked if I’m mixed. As if being mixed would be the only way someone black could be attractive. |
i’ve heard of people talking about different videos pertaining cats being done things that are horrific. i’ve heard about documentaries which include countless cats being victims. i’ve heard people actively have this strong hatred with cats and tell me that they’d kick them, hurt them. i don’t trust people at all who don’t like them, cats get such an awful reputation. i heard about the blender video, just hearing about it makes me bawl. i hate when people get upset when you’re not a dog person and it’s not socially acceptable but it’s acceptable to hate on cats. i’m not a dog person, but i’m never passionate on it, i don’t wish them any harm, i can coexist with one, i do like some breeds. i just feel like hating cats it’s a huge red flag for me. i have two cats and i just don’t know what id do without them. i understand dogs also get abused but the public sympathies with dogs more. i just needed to get this off my chest because i’m tired of having to force people to understand that cats are animals and have feelings. | Initially I was about to say something different because disliking an animal is completely valid, but then you mentioned the stuff about harming cats and I 100% agree. Disliking is one thing, wishing harm is straight up lunacy. |
FUCK. YOU.
I went to two different doctors for chronic back and hip pain and was told that this is just because I am vegetarian and don't consume enough vitamin D and calcium. Yes. This actually happend.
Turns out 3 years later that I actually have axial spondyloarthritis and a labrum lesion. NO FUCKING WONDER I WAS CONSTANTLY IN PAIN, MY GOD. | fuck those doctors |
You rapist piece of shit fucking child molester. Abusive incel you better hope to god you never come near me. Or my family again. I’ll bash your god damn skull it and spit on your worthless corpse you absolute waste of space | don't get yourself thrown into jail for that worthless piece of shit. it'll just give ~~him~~them more power.
but hell yea with that anger. |
Im an idiot because I let a man knock me up and I knew damn well this man had some kind of hang up on his ex. I just talked myself out of believing it.
Now I’m pregnant. He treats me like shit. Always picking fights with me then making me apologize for them and calling me “piece of shit” “useless” “cunt bitch” so on so forth. Gaslighting me non stop. This man is so god damn manipulative with his words. Now he can’t even commit. Just false promise of commitment. Will get me pregnant but won’t even open a bank account with me. Wont take care of me in my pregnancy. Wowwowow
I don’t know I felt this false sense of family and happiness with him. I don’t know why I did this.
I’m going to be a single mom.
This man straight up impregnated me just to feel something I swear to god because what the fuck?
If you guys ever wanna know for rather or not a man just likes you for looks just get pregnant and see how quickly you become less and less of his favorite girl. | Um. Not to be *that* person but if I were you I’d think about ending both the relationship and the pregnancy. |
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People like Justin Bieber and Ed Sheehan and Zayn collaborate with this guy like he didn’t almost commit a *murder*. He almost beat his girlfriend *to death*. And it’s not just that, he has a long history of violence against women. But everywhere he’s mentioned you’ll see people stick up for the guy and say his music is great. Incredibly famous and influential people love to collaborate with the guy and sing his praises. I don’t fucking get it. I hate that celebrities can almost get away with everything. This man almost killed Rihanna, he shouldn’t have a career right now. There’s a lot of people in the entertainment industry like this, but he’s the one I see pop up the most. It’s so frustrating seeing people bend over backwards to suck this serial abuser’s dick. | I don't know about the details of Rihanna's assault, but yeah, he should have to endure much more punishment and despise from colleauges than he does. Same with R. Kelly btw. His career did take a hit, but people still work with him all the time. Like Lady Gaga if I remember correctly. |
about a year or two ago a family moved into the house next door to mine. i live with my mom dad and two little sisters. literally 5 minutes ago he was arrested for being unregistered in my state for minimum a year (how long hes lived next to me). im DISGUSTED. ive always seen him outside looking over into our yard but just assumed he was nosy cause i didnt know anything about him or his family (my sisters go to school with his kids so they know probably a little more). but like, ive gone swimming in my pool and outside in shorts and stuff and its just so gross to think about especially with my sisters theyre much younger than me and it just infuriates me. this world is so disgusting and there is so much negativity it makes me just want to vanish | Hey so - it is scary. Be wary of the wife, truly. Don’t think she’s innocent or anything - and here is why.
When my ex-wife & I split up he showed up the day I moved out.
I was at work in the middle of a deal, hit the restroom, peed, opened Facebook and I saw the dude, being wanted for molesting a minor under 14 - and I have 2 daughters. Read the comments and looked up his records and court appearances and - holy shit. Several domestics, kidnapping, multiple protection orders, protection order violations.
I brought it up to the ex and she said every single bit of it was a set up.
It took me 12 months and 100’s of emails, phone calls just to get him to STOP grooming my daughters over the phone while in prison (you don’t register as a sex offender until you’re released from prison - so he wasn’t violating the sex offender rules)
And then it was sneaking letters to my daughters into letters addressed to my ex-wife.
Hell, the ex-wife put his phone number(s) into my oldest daughter’s tablet.
And keep in mind - I couldn’t stop any of this. 33 months I was dealing with shit like this.
He got out last month. Ironically, I got full custody of my daughters last month 🤷🏻♂️
My ex-wife tried to lie about it, say it wasn’t true, and I was a bitter ex husband who couldn’t move on, until I brought out receipts. Her acknowledgements over email. Her saying the law didn’t matter and she could do what she wants. Her acknowledgements that “the girls LOVE him and you can’t stop anything” (my daughters were terrified of this man)
In the court hearing she went on a 10 minute rant about how, it was all a set up, she has a hard life and the judge was making it harder, that I was a giant piece of shit, that the dude was framed, and that the state doesn’t care about men’s rights.
She got kicked out, I was given 100% total custody, and she gets supervised visits once a week. |
So I have gone to friends hoping for genuine relationship advice, and I’ve been around others when they ask for it, and there’s something that is literally making my blood boil. I’ve noticed that when someone is truly honest and vulnerable about an issue/conflict in their relationship, or when they go to others for advice on handling a difficult situation with their partner, there is ALWAYS a chorus of, “Oh, end it. Break up. You’re slightly unhappy? Then just leave.”
Now before I really get going, I have to address the obvious as I’ve definitely seen and had those conversations with someone in an unhealthy and/or abusive relationship; that is *very* different. In those situations it’s not only appropriate, but often necessary to call the abusive behavior by its name, encourage that person to seek help, and speak openly about leaving that relationship.
What is literally infuriating to me is when people immediately tell someone to leave their relationship at the first sign of **any** issue. There have been so many times when I have looked for some advice or an objective standpoint on an issue with my romantic partner and I’m bombarded with comments like “why would you stay if you aren’t happy,” “that’s stupid you’re obviously incompatible and should break it off,” or “just leave if your needs aren’t met.”
Pushing that kind of rhetoric is not only dismissive of that person’s concern and reductive of the entirety of their relationship, but it is literally why so many people NEVER talk about strains in their relationship. No one wants their friends, family, or any one for that fact, to hate their partner- and too often that’s what so many people jump to when presented with a the facts of a relationship conflict. If someone is seeking advice on a relationship, telling them to end that relationship is literally the opposite of the input or comfort that they were hoping to get from raising the issue.
Let’s also consider the fact that real relationships outside of media are a bit messy and are incredibly dynamic; no romantic partner is perfectly suited to address every single need and want of their significant other. We are literally humans and I promise you there is NO ONE perfectly suited to meet all your needs as a partner without compromising some of their own. Literally we have to stop pushing this idea that the second your partner doesn’t tick off every single box, or as soon as you realize there is some level of incompatibility, then boom: red flag, leave, they’re bad for you, what’s the point. That’s not advice, that’s encouraging people to use their partners as means to an end and to throw it away when you’re not totally 100% happy.
No wonder relationships don’t last of this is genuinely how so many people approach their love life. I can totally understand ending a relationship if there are significant or multiple instances of incompatibility; it’s important for the person *in* the relationship to gauge that and yeah, I think it’s okay for someone else to suggest the idea of terminating the relationship if there are multiple and serious issues. But I promise you that no healthy, happy, or stable relationship functions without some sort of compromise.
People act like compromising your needs or wants in a relationship, even a little, is grounds to break up. But loving someone, especially when you go against our biological hardwiring as humans and enter a monogamous relationship, requires *constant* give and take from both partners. Sometimes we give more and sometimes we take more, and it’s important to be mindful of any significant imbalances, but stop pretending like every couple has to perfectly sync up on every facet of their relationship or it’s not worth it.
The one I get most frustrated with is when people automatically assume that having incompatible sex drives is grounds to terminate a relationship, no matter the circumstances or history. If your partner doesn’t want to have sex as much as you do, that’s a perfectly valid concern, *but* that doesn’t mean that you automatically throw away everything and there’s no chance of finding happiness and satisfaction in that relationship.
Listen, sex is great and is a very important part of any relationship. Im far and away the one in my relationship with the higher sex drive, and of course that has led to some awkward moments and frustration. And yes, in some instances incompatible sex drives *can* be a valid reason to end it with a partner. But telling someone that their relationship isn’t worth maintaining because they have a kink their partner isn’t into, they initiate sex more often than their partner, or because their partner doesn’t want to have sex at the exact same time or doesn’t get off in the exact same way is just immature and unhelpful. It’s like saying, “I had $100 but I lost $5 so I just threw the rest away cause what’s the point if it’s not all of it?”
Alright, that was a much needed rant as I am frankly shocked and disturbed to see so many people who genuinely just want to strengthen their relationships and talk through the best available options in a safe and understanding place, but immediately get slapped with the “don’t even try, your relationship is trash, you aren’t compatible, leave him/her now cause it’s going to end soon anyway.” Unless someone is asking specifically for advice on whether or not to break up, don’t just reduce their issue to “if you’re upset then just leave.” End venting session. Thanks for coming. | Agreed.
It’s annoying because I used to post in relationship advice on occasion, and got frustrated with everyone telling me to leave my partner. I need advice navigating a typical bumpy patch, not your high school drama based opinion.
So I try commenting on posts there, you know like some healthy tips or advice etc. and either get met with indignation or just ignored completely.
I’m convinced most people don’t actually want advice they just want to rant and have their tantrum justified. |
If my life is in danger dropping your package off after dark, that’s totally unacceptable. I wear a vest and walk only in lit areas and communicate with the recipients whenever possible. I ring doorbells, knock, and try to be quick and not linger AT ALL. Lately people have been saying they almost shot delivery drivers for dropping off a package, which is legitimately nuts and scares the hell out of me that someone may have had me in their scope while I dropped off their vitamins. Almost got mugged Uber driving, apparently am in danger delivering packages, had people threaten me over sitting their dogs when the dogs tried to attack my family. Is the world really so nuts that any share service is a potential danger? | The US is very unstable. |
Everything is going to be okay, I know things are hard right now but things will get better, okay? Keep going, you can do this! I'm here for you. Never give up and don't let others push you down, be yourself. It's your opinion which matters, not others.
Sending lots of love and hugs! <33 | I quickly read this and scrolled. Then I came back because I needed it.
TY |
My brother is younger than me but has touched me inappropriately a lot of times after i told him to stop. He has touched my boobs a lot of times. Like full on grabbing them. Ive told him its not okay but he continued to do it. He is 11 and im 16. I know he is a kid but it still bothers me a lot. He recently grabbed my boobs again and he said it was okay cus he is my brother but i said it was wrong regardless and he shouldn’t do it. I know he is a kid but it still makes me sad he did it. He has done this for years and he also grabbed my private parts once. It was about 1 or 2 years ago and i cant shake it. Idk if im overreacting but it bothers me so much that he touches me and i tell him to stop. He grabs my boobs a lot and it makes me uncomfortable. The private parts thing is for me way worse cus i still cant shake it. Idk if im overreacting
Edit: thanks u to everyone who is giving me advice and support! It means a lot. A lot of people are saying i should hit him to defend myself. My brother also has a lot of violent tendencies that my parents do know about. We used to fight a lot and he would hit me so hard and pull my hair i could not defend myself. He has hit me for really dumb things like poking fun at him. He would also do the grabbing and hitting in public. Im afraid of hitting him because i know he would just hit me harder. He is very aggressive w me. Also i don’t know how i would tell my parents because im pretty sure they know he does this but i don’t think they’ve brought it up. He is very aggressive and i think they don’t wanna punish him because he will end up breaking every object in the house to get his way which he has done before. He reminds me of kevin from we need to talk about kevin | You're definitely NOT overreacting.
At 11 years of age, he should know better.
Have you told your parents? If not, I'd do that first.
Then, if he still doesn't stop, slap him across the face. Maybe that's the only way he understands. |
I work in sales and communication is done primarily through phones and emails. The amount of flirting I deal with daily is tiring. I’m a nice person and I’m friendly with our customers but please keep the flirting for the bar. Not some faceless chick who processes your orders 😭 | Some people are lonely. And unfortunately don’t understand boundaries |
If I wanna practice my sewing by making something easy, like a face mask, that's my fuckin decision
Don't fuckin tell me "Don't let me catch you wearin a face mask. It's not good to wear those because it activates the virus inside you"
BITCH!
FIRST OFF
I AM A GROWN ASS WOMAN, I WILL WEAR WHATEVER THE FUCK I WANT, BUT *I'M* THE RUDE ONE FOR TELLING YOU "it's not your decision if I do"
SECOND
I'll fuckin take your advice when you get a medical degree, miss "I'm a dispatcher, I know everything"
I just want all of this to be over! My gf has RA for fuck sake! I'm tired of worrying!
EDIT: I asked our stepdad, A CERTIFIED EMT, if it was possible to "activate" a virus by "wearing a facemask and breathing in my own funk"... and guess what his answer was? A BIG FAT FUCKING NO | damn, feels bad man, just read my user and thats my main reaction;
^(slap her)
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I’m 17, and so is my girlfriend. I wouldn’t be getting things off my chest unless I said she’s the absolute love of my life, that she brings light to my day, that essentially, I really would do anything for her and nothing could ever change that.
This night, 6 hours ago, her uncle’s friend was driving her to a dinner when he grabbed her out of her seat, choked her, and then forced her head down. I was texting to her right before, and texting to her right after.
She was too shocked to speak, too numb to feel, she told me. Once she told me what happened, I told her to tell her parents. To tell the police. To tell anyone that could do something. She was too afraid her parents would call her a slut, and didn’t want to go through the ordeal of the police.
I managed to distract her for a few hours, she even laughed, she even made jokes, and I stayed strong until she fell asleep.
Now, I’ve just had my breakdown.
I have no one to talk to. I have to be strong for her, and I can’t tell anyone else. Fuck everything. She had enough trouble, she had enough pain, she didn’t need this. Fuck the slimy motherfucker who did this.
The worst part was when things got quiet and she asked me:
“Do you still love me? Would you still kiss me? Even though I taste so gross now?”
To hear her feel unworthy of my love, for something completely out of her control, for her to feel so low, that was what broke me. | Hey man you need to convince her to tell the police! Not now as this may not be the best time to, but definitely tell someone! Go straight to the police with her! This isn’t ok, it’s not her fault. Be there for her to support her as she will definitely need you. |
Hey guys, how can I start this…
Last week we graduated from high school and some rich as*** from our class threw a party in which I wasn’t invited, so I couldn’t go, the point is that my GF went and all of them including girls drugged her and raped her, they even beat her and she cannot stop thinking that they could have killed her, she cannot remember anything but her best friend was there and she couldn’t do anything cuz they won’t let her.
Sad thing is that even if you have proof, authorities in my country they literally do nothing.
I don’t know what to do, she has been crying for the last 3 days and I feel so guilty for not being there to defend her, their parents are furious and the whole situation is out of control, I have no idea how to help her or what to tell her, nothing helps :(. | That's horrific. I'm so sorry. You don't need to feel guilty. The only guilty ones are the ones who did it. You can be there for her and comfort her and also ask her what she would like you to do. This is difficult and everyone is different on how they need help. Let her guide you. Also make sure you get support from family or therapy too as I'm sure it's a lot for you to process aswell. |
So today my crush texted me "do you have a crush on me" so i admitted that i do and the next thing he did was say "You're a 1/10, you're weird and ugly" while the only thing i did was compliment him. Now i totally hate myself again afyer i finally had some selfrespect after years. I honestly don't know what to do anymore.. I feel the like the ugliest weirdest person ever, i don't talk to people anymore now and i'm just rotting away in bed.
Edited: Thank you all for the support, it made me feel so much better and really helped me. Thanks for all the support, I love you all! <3 | i'm so sorry that happened, this guy doesn't deserve you if he talks like that. So immature of him to reject you like that. ranking people on a number system is something i've always hated, ''youre a 1/10'' means nothing, beauty is subjective.. you can't rank someone's beauty on a number system, you might not be what he wants but i'm sure people out there find you absolutely beautiful. do not let this guy stomp on all of your hard work working on your selfrespect, you've worked hard for that and you deserve to love yourself, his opinion does not matter. |
yesterday in class i didnt have a laptop to use because my dad hasnt given me the $50 fee that you pay to borrow them from the school annd my teacher brought EVERYONE'S attention to it. it was so embarrassing and i teared up. she said sorry and that she was joking atound but it still made me feel upset.
edit: for all the people telling me to report her, i wont yet. i stayed after class to discuss how her behavior affected me. | I’d report her to someone higher up. Teachers shouldn’t fucking bully their students. At least that’s how I’m seeing it. Bringing something like that up to the WHOLE CLASS will just encourage bullying. |
I don't know how to start this. My mom is gone. She passed away 12 days after her 41st birthday, 4 days after my 17th birthday. It doesn't feel like she's really gone. I haven't latched on to the idea that I will never see her again. I still feel like I'm gonna go home and she'll hug me. She never even got the chance to grow old. I'm not suicidal but I want to be with her. I want to leave this world and be with her. I can't imagine life without her even though I'm already living it. It's so fucking hard to keep going on without her. I just want to sleep all day. The funeral is in 3 days and I feel like it's going to destroy me. | I’m really sorry op, it’s not going to feel real for awhile, and sometimes you’re gonna be staring at a ceiling for hours and not know why.
Everyone grieves differently, in no way feel rushed. And if it’s a viewing, don’t feel compelled to look. I didn’t when my dad passed away even though my family was begging me to. I wanted my last memory to be of him waving goodbye to me, not his dead shell.
The good news is, you’re not alone. Most everyone has lost someone they loved, and find healing in talking about it. These will be some hard years for you, especially with holidays coming up, but I promise you, the journey through grief is a mind opening one.
Again i’m so sorry for your loss, and wish you the absolute best. |
My ex girlfriend of 5 years (23F) and I (24M) broke up a month ago, so while I get the mental help I need, I’ve been on dating apps just looking for hookups/FWBs.
Had a great first date with this girl on Friday, totally hit it off, and met up with her Saturday too to spend a night in talking and watching movies. Was going great, not a whole lot of common hobbies but similar humor and a good vibe together.
Ended up hooking up with her, second hookup since the breakup (and the first was with some guy and was atrocious) and was great, good chemistry in sheets too - until I realized after I finished that the condom broke.
Just so fucking frustrated because she’s already super stressed and now has to deal with this (I gave her the money for a plan B since all places were closed that night) and I’m pretty sure I blew up all my chances with her with this whole thing.
FUCK | You were either incredibly, unbelievably unlucky or one of you didn't treat the condom with enough care while unpacking/unrolling.
Either way, this event shouldn't be a dealbreaker for either of you if it was an accident. She agreed to sex so she was aware this could happen. It sucks when it does, but it's not something that can't be dealt with and forgotten about. If this had happened to me and my girlfriend when we started dating, we'd probably be laughing about it now. |
I’m at a summer camp right now where the showers and bathrooms are in a separate cottage-type building. I had to shower today so obviously i walked outside over to the bathrooms/showers.
When i was walking, i heard two boys from three say stuff like “her ass smells so she’s gotta go shower” “her ass looks like it smells” then they started talking about liberals and politics and stuff like that?? Making it pretty obvious that they had more conservative or right-wing views, i don’t know.
This wasn’t really out of nowhere either. I’d noticed that they’d stare at me, laugh when they were near me, laugh when i spoke??
Why they said this? I have dyed red hair and two facial piercings. Nothing else, i hadn’t even said a word to the two before. I always go out of my way to be really nice and sweet because i know some people will have assumptions just based on how i look. I’ve done nothing wrong, I’ve only been nice, why the fuck are teenage boys like this? This was so fucking humiliating. And it’s not like i have bad hygiene either, i shower every single day. I wouldn’t have felt as bad if it was three girls, because as a girl i know that they do this because they’re either jealous or just miserable. Then i had to act like i was unbothered and didn’t care when i told my friends.
Fun little update: they made fun of my tourettes and made a camp counselor cry by making fun of her singing | This is just me, but I would get right in their face and ask them if they have a problem. It's been a hot day, and you need to shower. And make sure you tell them you didn't ask for their opinion or their permission. Usually, that will shut people up quickly. |
Almost 4 years ago I was arrested three weeks after I met up with some girl who lied about her age on tinder who was a week from 16 while I was 19. I went to jail for 20 days which I still have nightmares about and shit, and lost access to a lot of people through some of the restrictions, even tho I’ve been able to leave the house. It’s finally almost in two weeks and seriously if it looks like I’m serving time I’m going to kill myself as soon as I can in there. If it’s anything else I’m fine, but since I’m autistic and socially awkward and easily manipulated, as well as the nature of the charges, I’d probably just kill myself even if I tried living anyways. I’ve just been using drugs and ignoring my online school cause I can’t get out of my fucking head. | If you still can, screenshot any texts that you two had about her lying about her age. |
Just saw a post about a kid coming into a living room belting out her favourite song with her mum's vibrator in hand as a mic, in front of guests. The amount of MEN in the comments upset at the idea of a wife having toys was amazing in a bad way.
Some saying the husband is failing in bed, others say she's disinterested. What if she doesn't want to have sex? What if she wants a quick one? What if her husband isn't even home lmao.
It's so funny and so sad.
If my future partner tries getting me to throw my stuff out, I'm throwing the partner out. Simple as.
Sorry this just made me angrier than it should've lol | If you don’t like using toys on your wife you’re not living right my guy |
For the love of fuck, you look under 30, and the sign says we have to ID under 30. I don't give a fuck of your bald, have tattoos, you look young. And when you start getting angry, we know you're too young. And i don't care if you say you were born in 1990, i can say i was born in 1659, are you going to believe me? No! People lie, show your God damned ID. And when you have someone else come in and buy for you after you leave, we just won't sell those cigarettes for a few hours. I could get fired if i serve you. And if you go to another cashier, and get angrier when they ask for your ID, just leave. Also, if you're driving, why the fuck do you not have your ID? | Sounds rough. I legitimately don’t know why a person would get angry about being asked for ID. Sorry to hear about all that, I’m sure it gets frustrating after a while. |
Yesterday I was scammed by someone pretending to be my bank. I lost every penny I have saved and am so fucking heartbroken, devastated and angry. I thanked the man who scammed me 20 times because I thought he was from the bank SAVING ME FROM FRAUD. I’m angry and humiliated and my bank don’t think they can recover the money. I’m such an optimist and believe the best in people is always there and I still do but I have £0.00 to my name because of some prick who managed to con me like I’m an elderly woman. That’s the problem too, it’s my own fault I’m in this mess cos I didn’t wise up. I’m just heartbroken.
Edit : this is not an ask for anyone for money, but someone asked for my PayPal and I was hoping it would be ok to share, https://www.paypal.me/augustdaisy if any kind person would like to help me pay my rent this month. Thank you all so much.
EDIT2: I KNOW NOONE MIGHT CARE BUT MY BANK REFUNDED THE TRANSACTION! I’m so happy and will continue to redistribute the money you kindly sent me to other people who need it. Thanks so much words cannot describe my gratefulness. Have an amazing day everyone! | I understand why you would feel guilty and stupid, but you're neither. It's not your fault, it's the scammer's fault honey.
Unfortunately, we have to beware of everything and everyone in order to protect ourselves from bad people. I'm sorry you lost your money and I hope you'll be able to get something back, or at least get back on your feet. Maybe if something like this happens again you can call your bank to check? Good luck. :) |
What is up with parents who think that giving birth and raising kids gives them the right to completely disrespect them and put them down?
If you get asked to leave something alone just do it! Clearly it's important to them even if you assign NO value to it yourself or don't believe it has any worth. You really don't know. Showing them basic respect is free. Costs you nothing!
Stop stealing your kids money, your kids items or cars. The stuff dosen't belong to you and you are a theif If you do it!
I'm not talking about punishments that ground them from their phone or other items. But give it back and don't give it away to siblings or other family, or strangers!
Let your kids have some small amount of authority over their possessions. Let kids set boundaries with each sibling, step siblings, family members there and even with you. You do them no favors by being a bully and stomping on their boundaries!
Too many horrible parents trying to one up their kids in this world. Treat them with respect and you get respect. This is why many parents act as their kid's first bully then wonder why they sit alone in a nursing home in their old age. Treat them with a small degree of respect and consideration and you would have a much better time with them, especially in adulthood. | Today's teens have a stronger moral code than today's adults quite frankly. |
I just need to complain honestly. I work full time, I've always had at least 40hr work weeks, usually it's 60hr work weeks because I have multiple jobs at any given time. Yesterday I got paid and made one of the biggest checks I've ever had since my work started giving us an extra 2$ "hazard pay", I made almost $1k over the two weeks I worked and today I woke up checked the account and I have $50 left after paying back pay on rent and utilities, I don't get paid for another 2 weeks and I still owe my landlord another 2k in bills. I have worked so goddamn hard over the past few months just to stay alive, my husband lost his dumb job due to the rona and I'm just so fucking tired, my back hurts, and I'm crying on my lunch break because idk what to do, I was supposed to go to school this fall but I can't even pay to register for my classes because that means I won't be able to eat over the next few weeks. I'm so tired of being poor and getting trapped in the stupid fucking cycle of depressing bullshit, I don't have parent's that can bail me out, my husband although wonderful isn't doing shit to look for a job and I can't even say I blame him because working with the public in the middle of a pandemic is a fucking nightmare. Seriously fucking fuck all you pieces of trash who wanna give me, a service worker, a hard time over the stupid mask rule, just cover up ur goddamn faces and act like adults I don't get paid enough to deal with y'alls bullshit but I HAVE to or I'll be HOMELESS. I'm so frustrated, I have no options other than to keep busting my ass until my back goes out all the way and I can qualify for workers comp.. | You're a rockstar. Hopefully soon, we eat the rich...bc while you struggle Jeff Bezos profited. Mark Zuckerburg doubled his net worth. Our government argued over semantics, and before relief could sent to us....they took a months long vacation. They resume next week to argue over emissions some more. |
Only just joined reddit and I can't post or comment in a majority of threads because of only just joining/not having enough 'karma', everything just gets removed by bots. Do I have to go look for a bunch of threads I'm not interested in and post random crap just to gain a bit of karma? I get that it defers trolls and all but it's irritating as all hell | Here’s an upvote. Hope you’re having a better night than myself. |
I’m not bringing my kid to the doctor for a cold. And I’m not sending him to school with a cold. Sometimes you are sick enough to stay home and at the same time not be sick enough to see a doctor. It’s not tough to understand. | I’m a teacher and I approve this message. |
When I was younger my mom walked naked or in towels because “we came out of her” but in reality i didn’t want to see that, i remember one night i was 11 sleeping in the same bed with my mom I’m on the lower end she’s on the upper end i fall asleep and then when i woke up her legs were spread by my face like inches away and i quickly threw her leg to the other side then started crying silently hitting myself poking at my eyes banging my head against random stuff then went into another room i can never see napkin holders the same because i was a little girl i barely knew about my body I didn’t want to know about hers, and I hope this reaches all the moms/dads who think it’s okay to walk around fully nude with their child like no that’s not okay (just a trauma dump) | Have you seen a therapist?
This is not a normal reaction to nudity and the fact you are still bothered by it years later signals talking it out with someone may help. |
I used to live in England. But I moved back to my home country, Zambia, for school. I hadn’t yet come out to my family as pansexual, but it’s too late now. Being gay in Zambia gets you a 15 year jail sentence. Being a woman in Zambia is awful as well. Every time I walk to the shop or on my own in public, I get the most disgusting comments from grown men. I’ve even seen a man trying to photograph me inappropriately in broad daylight. Rape victims are blamed for dressing immodestly, child marriage is legal and human trafficking is a huge problem here. It’s so awful. I wish my mum never took me here. I have to stay here for the rest of my childhood, but the second I graduate I’m OUT. Fuck that noise. | Sending love from America! I hope you get out safely. Stay safe, I know you will be able to make it out. I just hope that is without experiencing anything too bad…
Wishing you luck,
an internet stranger |
Today I'm "too affectionate" so guess I'll share it a bit :D
Edit: wow a lot of comments, I slept and woke up to more than 50 notifications lol. Sorry if I don't answer to all of you :(
But 🤗 | I need a hug smh |
A few years ago someone broke into my grandmas home, held her at gunpoint and raped her. She lives alone but we all would visit her frequently to check on her. It’s such a quiet and old neighborhood you know? She’s lived there for over 40 years. We all grew up in that house. So we were all just so shocked. I couldn’t stop crying for her. The look on her face I will never forget.
She had bruises, a broken rib and an ankle fracture. She was 72 at the time. My heart just hurts so bad for her. She’s gone to doctors, therapists and tons of physical therapy to be able to walk and get to the same level of physical health she was at before but it’s not the same. She’s not the same, and I don’t think she will ever be. She doesn’t speak of it ever. She never has. We don’t bring it up ever, because she’s our grandma. I don’t know how else to explain it, we all love her so much and we’re just so devastated. We all visit her and sometimes stay the night with her but she just watches tv all day. Her flowers have died, she doesn’t take care of them anymore, her fridge is always empty.
Recently ive been staying with her the past few days and while we were watching tv she said to me
“You know I’ve been touched and abused since I was 4. I always thought it would go away with age, I’d think I’m too old for them now. But I guess I was wrong, at the end of the day I’m still just a woman.”
She just went back to watching tv like she just didn’t say anything. I tried talking to her but I also didn’t know what to say. Can you even imagine? I just don’t know what to do. I miss her and I’m so sad for her.
| “You know I’ve been touched and abused since I was 4. I always thought it would go away with age, I’d think I’m too old for them now. But I guess I was wrong, at the end of the day I’m still just a woman.”
That sent chills up my spine. Same with me, since I was 4, I have been molested, raped and harassed by men, I'm now fatter and 60 years old and have been "invisible" for about 15 years. But that may not be true (that I am invisible). It may happen again. It may never truly ever be over for a woman. |
My whole life i have been sexualized. The second i got curves i was forced to cover up. My friends are allowed to wear leggings and tank tops, well guess what i can't because I have a full chest. I'm tired of not being allowed to dress the way i want to because of something I literally can't control.
And its everyone around me. Even my own friends make jokes about it and it makes me so uncomfortable. Like ok. Yeah i have big tits. I get it. Like you dont have to objectify me like an old man.
However i like to blame this on society. News flash, boobs are for babies. Not for youre pleasure.
I just hate it so much. Its not fair. I genuinely can't live in peace because of this | My daughter is in the same boat. She rarely goes out because of her breast size. She was an amazing runner but stopped at 13 because of her chest size. She doesn't get to wear what she wants because she is seen as a slut. She has actually been called this for wearing clothes that all her friend can wear without being gawked at and called names. I want you to know we hear you!!! |
(Sorry for any grammar mistakes English is my 3rd language)
So i (15M) shaved my legs yesterday just to see how it looks and feels and ngl i am digging it my leg muscles look more defined but today my mom (51F) saw that i shaved them and went hysteric and started yelling at me and she started calling me gay and for some back story she is really religious and i don’t see the problem with why it should be a problem maybe in her eyes it’s “breaking the gender norm” but to be honest it’s not there is a lot of male athletes, body builders , actors , celebrities and much more who do it | Does your mom shave her legs? If so, call her gay. |
It’s recently come to my attention that many people consider “cunt” to be an “unacceptable derogatory slur against women”. In my observation, the fear of “cunt” is largely US based. However nobody can seem to explain to me *why* it is seen as one of the most derogatory words there is here. What special connection do Americans in particular have with the word? None.
**Hypocrisy** -
As we know, cunt originated as a word for vagina (more later). If cunt is derogatory to women because of vaginas, dick/prick or cock should be seen as derogatory to men. Asshole should be seen as the most evil insult there is. If you consider a slang term for vagina to be more offensive than a slang term for penis or any other body part, that seems like your own association.
**Sensitivity** - On that, Americans creating their own mental association to a word does not make it any more derogatory there than anywhere else. Many Americans say “well it’s a slur HERE so you can’t use it HERE”. Why? It’s supposedly a slur against women, who are everywhere, and not a slur against American women in America. Nothing makes it more offensive here than in Australia except your own sensibilities.
**Bigger Picture** - It feels like transferring schools to a kindergarten that says “pop tart” is a no no word. Yeah sure, Darryl called Carasaraleighanna a “Pop Tart” once and she was offended. Adults don’t want kids calling each other *any* names, even if they don’t make sense, so they tell the kids it’s bad. The kids now think Pop Tart is a bad word, and no matter the context it’s used in will be shocked at the “naughty swear”. The kids thinking it’s a bad word does not make it, in reality, a bad word. The association their school has made with Pop Tart being bad does not make it true. In the bigger picture, in the real world, Pop Tart is no more offensive than Skittles. Cunt is no more offensive than bitch.
**Offensive ≠ Slur** - Speaking of, a whole slew of curse words can be used in a sexist or derogatory way. Non curse words like above can be used with the same implication. It just doesn’t make them inherently derogatory. Any curse word especially can be used in a way that’s not okay; after all, their very purpose is to offend. On the flip side, almost any curse word can be used in a positive connotation as well. Curse words can be sentence modifiers, compliments, exclamations, and of course insults. The ability to use a word interchangeably in a derogatory manner doesn’t make it a slur. It also doesn’t make it inherently derogatory. If any word that *could* be used to offend someone becomes a derogatory slur, we will soon have no words left.
**History** - Now you might be thinking, “well it was historically used against women and maybe other countries are just desensitized”. This is my favorite part. Take the word bitch for example: “bitch” was a word originated to compare and reduce women to breeding dogs aka bitches. Compared to the word cunt, which originally praised women and their power to sustain life, bitch is ENTIRELY based in misogynistic roots. This is incredibly derogatory, yet it is probably the most thrown around curse right after “fuck”. Especially in America! In many cases, bitch is used to simply convey emotion. In *very* few situations does someone ever bat an eye to hearing it. Realistically nothing makes cunt, a word that is tied to an ancient Goddess, more derogatory than the word that has been used to compare women to dogs and breeding stock since the 15th century.
**Conclusion** - If you’re going to be offended by cunt because it’s slang for a body part, you should be equally offended by cock/dick/asshole. If you’re going to be offended by cunt because of misogynistic roots, you should be more offended by bitch. Anyone who is not more/equally offended by these is a hypocrite with a likely persecution fetish, and the same kind of person to say “Karen” is racially motivated against white people.
Thanks for coming to my TED Talk. Cheers, cunts (complimentary). | I use cunt just like I use bitch. *Fucking cunt*, *son of a cunt*, etc. But I rarely use them towards people. Mainly when I'm frustrated with something I'm doing or if I hit myself with something |
I’ve had a Reddit account for 7+ years so this isn’t necessarily something new, but I just hate the smug attitude in the Reddit comments. Often times a “correct” answer will be followed with “seems kinda obvious” or “did you really not know that?”, and despite the attitude, people still upvote that shit. We can be informative *and* polite!That, and the general trend of people to act extremely confrontational when hiding behind a screen.
Anyway, seems really boilerplate, but it grinds my gears. | There's also a fair amount of concrete thinking. People seem to see a situation as black or white, the person is either right or wrong and that's it. I know it's hard to grasp nuisance when you're only seeing part of the picture but people really aren't looking for it either. |
Just got unexpectedly gifted flowers and that got me thinking about how much I love humans. There's so much hate in the world but there's just as much love, if not more, if you're open to receiving it. I think people are inherently good and in my experience, most have been so willing to be sweet, loving, and helpful. We're truly social animals.
Don't even get me started on the little silly things we do like wishing blessings on total strangers when they sneeze which is just plain adorable | Aww yay!! I hope you keep having great days :)
Kindness is so wonderful. There are kind people to remind us of how we should be. Never stop being kind |
They always look at me like a fucking zoo attraction, always talk to me with some condescending tone like I'm fucking 5. "Who's making you wear that?", "Are the mandates back?", just dude, I just got used to them and now I feel naked without it. Makes me feel more sanitary. What, you want me to blast you with particles? | Same. After living in Japan the whole mask thing seemed to make a lot of sense.
It's crazy how people who scream about keeping the government out of our business want to be in yours. |
i hate reddit so much. redditors are like the quiet kid in the back of the class who manage to piss off everyone the second they open their mouths. everyone on this site is like either correcting your formatting or making some stupid fucking joke. “**pushes up glasses** **checks notes** level 5000 wholesome epic pupper spotted” please shut the fuck up. you are insufferable. everyone on here is a loser. they’re either a repulsive neckbeard or literally this 🤓. i never wanted to download this shithole app i just wanted to look at the public freakouts thread without being told “uh oh! this page is 18+! download our app!” fine i downloaded your fucking app. im sorry i ever did. i hate it.
if this post violates the sub guidelines, please tell me and i’ll edit accordingly or note it for the future in case you take it down. i’m genuinely not intending to be a troll or anything, i just hate this fucking cesspool of a website and wanted the world to know. i’m sure many of you aren’t unbearable people i’m just frustrated with reddit culture because it’s so fucking awful. thanks for reading | Reddit culture is pretty ass, but I do enjoy reading stories, and arguing with people |
If I hear one more jack ass refer to cultural appreciation as appropriation I am going to lose my fucking mind. Yes, you can be a Buddhist. Yes, you can get a hieroglyphic tattoo. Yes, you can eat a goddamn taco. Y’all sound like fucking racists with your declarations of “cultural appropriation”, wishes for segregation and public shaming of anyone interested in other cultures. Cultures have influenced other cultures since the dawn of time
True cultural appropriation involves exploitation, Columbus energy, and disrespecting the source.
Now, shut the fuck up and go watch Spanish soap operas and eat pocky. | Exactly. I'm irish/Italian. Two of the loudest and proudest races out there. Do you think I give a flying fuck if black, Asian, or Latino people dye their hair red and fuck a sheep while eating Gelato and singing Vivo Per Lei?
No. No I do not. |
I’m 16f and my parents are way too concerned with my body and it’s messing with my health and hygiene! I am a virgin but my parents are always so intense about it like they’re scared or something, I’m not allowed to date until college, I can’t have males over, and when it comes to my vaginal health they’re always so suspicious of it, they always ask if I’m a virgin, and every time I tell them about a crush they immediately remind me I’ll never date them because of their rules.
I recently told my mom I want my pubic hair permanently removed because my skin is so sensitive that no matter what soap, gel, shaving cream, method, or razor I use my pain private area turns read and gets hot because that’s how irritated the skin is. Mu mom flipped saying, “What do you need to get it permanently shaved for? Only porn stars permanently shave it.” and “how do you think your father would feel?” (I don’t know why it’s his business in the first place but okay). My parents know I have sensitive/tender skin, they buy me specific soaps and lotions because of it so I don’t why they think my crotch area could handle a razor being run over it and having hairs pulled out or waxing.
It reminds me of when parents refuse to get their daughters birth control when they have bad cramps because they think it’s just a ruse for them to have sex. It pisses me off because I’m in so much pain, I don’t want to not shave it but the pain afterwards is like weeks long and by the time it ends it’s time to shave again and I can’t take it!
I don’t see why I just can’t have it professionally permanently removed so that I can no longer go through this pain and just be done with it. They’re so concerned about my “purity” they would rather I go through fucking pain...agonizing long-winded pain too. | That's so fuckin creepy. Your parents should not be that concerned and obsessed with your virginity and your body. Is there another adult you trust in your life you could talk to? You can try telling them about this and see if they could help you. Or maybe you can talk to your parents in private about this. Explain to them how uncomfortable it makes you feel and that you are you your own person, that they should not feel the need to obsess over it and that you can make you'r own choices. I'm sorry your parents are like this. |
I just made an anonymous report to a child protective service about my siblings and their state of living and neglect. I'm so scared my mum will find out but it gives me peace of mind that I actually tried to help instead of believing there's nothing I can do. Even if they can't do anything, I know I've tried.
Edit: wow, so many awards and kind responses. Thankyou all so much, this has really helped me. Since filing the report I stated to doubt myself, I think my mothers manipulation still lingers with me, but I'm working through it. | Op, it warms my heart than even if you're scared of what your mom might do, you still decided to do something, to protect your siblings. I'm really proud of you.
I really hope they do something about your situation and help you.
Stay strong. |
I'm a sex worker, there's no way around that. I'm in my 20s and didn't get started until I was 26. Sometimes I come across girls on here who are 18 and say things like "come fuck my 2003 pussy" and it just makes me feel physically ill. And I see grown ass men, especially men who claim to be teachers or another profession of that kind on their profile, saying some of the most grotesque things to these girls.
Can an 18 year old be pretty? Yes. Sexy to someone close to their age? Yes. But I'm frankly a little sick at the normalization of old men having anything to do with barely legal girls, period. At 18 years old I was still a baby, I was nowhere near ready for the commitment of doing porn. So I didn't. Did I think about doing it one day? Yes. But I didn't start until I felt right about it. Some girls have to start immedietly and never look back.
I just saw a post by an 18 year old girl about just graduating high school and the comments just.... 🤢 Some crusty dude saying she needed mascara tears and cock in her throat to complete the look, another crusty dude saying she needs 2 kids before 20 and to get to work.
Porn is porn and all, I get that, but when is enough enough? Sexualizing these girls so heavily from the moment they're old enough to move out of moms is creating a lot of broken women out there. Then again, the system in place allows them to start at 18 so that makes these creepy dudes feel just fine commenting because they know it's legal.
I guess thinking about Dakota Skye just has me feeling more empathetic and protective of these young girls. We live in an extremely sick world. Sometimes I wish I wasn't a part of it, but as a grown woman who has been out of my mother's house for 10 years, I can handle these things.
I just hope these little ones make it out alive. | Remember the catch me outside girl? She just turned 18 a couple months ago and immediately had like a million subscribers to her onlyfans. I saw her Instagram post about turning 18 and all the comments were absolutely disgusting. Especially because this girl fell into popularity/small fame at 13! |
I've known him for 18 years and he was a good friend. He went nuts and I lost him. Mental illness sucks. He was so awful to me and others.
A mutual let me know he was back on socials last week so I reached out. He's back at home and medicated. We're talking every day. He's okay. He's okay. He's good. He's medicated. He's more than okay. It's like talking to him from before he dipped. My oldest friend is back and I love him and I'm so happy he's here. He's BACK! I LOVE YOU M AND IM SO HAPPY YOURE BACK
Edit: lotta tone police here. I have 4 mental health diagnoses and call myself "crazy" on the regular. M also calls himself crazy. Both of us are aware of the language we use with both each other and ourselves, please stop telling us how we can refer to ourselves. We're not referring to other people, just each other, chill. | A buddy of mine died for 2mins during an eye surgery, something about the drugs they gave him stopped his heart or breathing. He was never the same again; got rude with his friends was always depressed and wanted to become a rapper in french(he didnt know french) checked his facebook he still copys/pastes the same rap/poem he made 2 years ago everyday. So sad tbh |
shut up♥️ | Couldn’t have said it better myself |
Like stay tf home or stfu
WHY GO TO A PLACE YOU KNOW REQUIRES A MASK ONLY TO COMPLAIN AND BITCH AND MOAN
Order your shit From amazon and stfu
Oh wait you only feel important when you get to yell at someone for doing their job
I hate people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
At this point throw the whole universe away | I totally agree. I **HATE** anti maskers. Like, is wearing something on your face that still allows you to breathe such a sacrifice? There are people losing loved ones, patients dying alone and scared in hospitals in a terrible way, and these people cry about “mUH fReEDoMs!!!11111” Like, no Karen, you’re not allowed to go out without a mask right now, deal with it. You’re not being oppressed. A mask is a lot more comfortable than a ventilator.
But yeah...I have some strong feelings toward anti maskers, did I mention that? Lol. Selfish sons of bitches. |
I recently came across this post on insta with two side by side pictures of the AT&T girl. In the left pic, she was wearing a plain blue shirt (from the ad) and in the right one she was wearing a slightly more revealing top. The caption was about how the girl has a better figure than you would have thought.
I was, first of all, extremely disgusted. And after reading the comments i was horrified. There was this one comment though about how she broke down on live because of comments and posts like these. So i checked out her account and i was so shocked that some of her posts that were months old had comments like, 'milkies' and some even more disgusting shit.
It's sick. | I love wearing skin tight jeans, and a regular women's fit shirt. These are very normal clothes, yet some men out there say "I'm asking for it". (Key: I said some not all). What the fuck? I'm wearing skin tight jeans because I feel cool in them and they're normal to wear? Its just because I am 182cm tall and am thin that people start to sexualise me in literally anything I wear. Honestly seems the same for women that have naturally large boobs. I get this post and this rant. Cheers for this |
Truly a dumb random vent here,
prompted by noticing more profiles than not I see on Twitter are onlyfans/sex accounts.
There. Are. So. Many.
I think about tiktok and how many OF gals soft promote on there. To an app. With millions of children on it.
I think about how impressionable I and every other woman I know was as preteens, and how much worse it has to be now with what young girls are exposed to and the kinds of expectations they think they need to fill.
Also those with p*rn brain may disagree but the amount that women are objectified today is disturbing and the amount of women perpetuating this and the men who happily consume and consume.. Idk everything and everyone is gross and I hate it here.
Romance is dead true love is dead | Agreed. It’s disgusting and reduces women to their bodies only. So sad |
I just wanted to say I love you, I love you. The people who judge you don’t even realize that many sex workers have helped people with disabilities (another group that has been exploited, looked down on, and abused systematically) experience physical intimacy that they otherwise didn’t have access to. That many sex workers have helped closeted lgbt+ people experience sex with their preferred gender. Sex workers receive so much judgement but there is a lot of good in the work that you do and you matter. THANK YOU!
Shout out to my cam girls working it for tuition on OnlyFans. YOU MATTER! And to literally anyone else who has done sex work to survive. YOU MATTER! 💗 YOU ARE A VALID PART OF SOCIETY! 💗 YOU DESERVE BASIC HUMAN DECENCY 💗 YOU. MATTER. 💗
I LOVE you, and you are prospering. Society will evolve to see your work as valid. It might only be a few people who needed to hear this but I am sick and tired of the judgement you have received and the biases against you. Sex work is real work. And if you choose to do something else, you deserve to not be judged for a valid job you did in the past. | > Sex work is real work.
no it's not. you can support sex workers but don't try to paint the industry as something cute and empowering when it's actually vile and exploitative |
I have been unintentionally losing weight since December. I was 124 pounds at the start of December (after losing 11 pounds with a bout of E. coli). It is now March 22nd and I weigh 112 pounds. I eat normally and was put on medicine for my severe iron deficiency anemia. Despite this, I am still losing weight.
I am terrified. The doctors have no clue what’s wrong with me, and I’ve already spent a shit ton of money trying to get properly diagnosed. But all they’ve been able to do is shrug and say, “we don’t know.” The doctors now want to send me to a hematologist (blood doctor), but I don’t want to go. Why waste even MORE money for another doctor to shrug at me?
I’m really struggling at this point. Physically and mentally, I feel absolutely awful. I know I’m dying, but the worst thing is I don’t know why or what’s causing it. I just want to know. | First of all, I want to inspire a sense of calm for you because its clear that you are afraid of dying, and believe you are dying, so please take this as fact: if you don't have a diagnosis, you can't be sure of that.What you do know is that something isn't right, and there very well is a problem making you unwell. I would ask if you have been referred to a specialist, but you say you have been referred to a hematologist.
People who study and analyze blood for a living have an interesting place in the medical world, because your blood holds the answers to so many metabolic processes when properly analyzed that there is a whole entire branch of medicine specializing in it, thus the blood work.That doesn't change the fact that if you are in the US, healthcare and insurance is an outright fucking scam, especially bad in some parts of the country. Truth is I was in a similar situation where I had collected countless bills with no answers after several years.
I moved to Colorado and saw a doctor in a different system, in a high income area, and she properly diagnosed me instantly. She gave me a simple non-narcotic prescription pain killer that fundamentally changed my ability to function comfortably through the day, something the doctors I went to for 3 years failed to do, yet charged me thousands of dollars to "try". An absolute scam, it felt like. I don't know if the doctors were incompetent or overwhelmed, but it made me mad.It's gotta be frustrating not having the answers you need, and in addition to all of this random stuff i'm saying in an attempt to help you feel better, i want to say i hope you feel better soon (for what its worth). I would suggest you see the hematologist, because it's a specialist who will at least be able to draw some conclusions based on what they see in your blood work, if not answers. I was surprised you haven't yet been referred to a gastroenterologist, but maybe that remains to be seen. |
It took me 5 years to grow out. My hair was down to my waist, exactly where I wanted it and I loved it! I didn’t care that other people didn’t like it, I loved braiding it and just having long flowing hair, it was healthy too because I never used harsh products or heat. It was perfect.
I usually go to my friend and she cuts off exactly the amount I want, but I was out of town visiting family so I went to a lady I never gone to before. The whole time she was trying to convince me to cut off 6 inches of my hair and I was like “absolutely not I love my hair how it is”. I told her she could cut off max two inches and she started cutting.
I knew I made a mistake when she was telling me how cutting the ends makes it grow faster. While she’s cutting I look down and see a LOT of hair on the floor, she notices and says “don’t worry, it just looks like a lot”.
Finally, she finishes and I stand up and look at my hair with some hope and all the hope shatters, it was barley longer than shoulder length. She had cut off about 8 inches, about a years worth of hair growth. I was pissed, usually I just keep quiet because I don’t want to be a jerk but when she proudly asked me “what do you think” as if I was gonna be like “oh, wow! You were right! It does look better this way” she was dead wrong. I simply said “it’s short” she sort of panicked and said “don’t worry, don’t worry it will grow back” I didn’t respond, I just walked away while my mom got hers done and asked my dad to pick me up because I wasn’t going to wait there any longer.
Everyone was acting like I was being dramatic because “it looks so much better like this”, “it will grow back even better”, “you had split ends”, and “it has more volume!” I know they were trying to be supportive but it just was making me more upset. I asked my mom later if she had told the lady to cut off that much and she said the told the stylist to do whatever I ask for.
This was back in February so I probably sound like a psycho still being salty over it. It just really upset me and I wanted to vent about it, my hair is about half as long as it was, so I still have a lot of growing to go before it’s back how I had it. Have you had a similar experience? | A couple weeks ago I got a horrendous haircut. Way too short. I already keep my hair at about shoulder length and she cut it at like mid ear length ish. My hair grows extremely fast, so it isn’t too big of a deal, but it happened when I was just getting better with my self-esteem issues and it all came crumbling down lol. |
During school, people like to say that mean people will struggle in the "real world". This is not true. Bullies and mean girls continue to get everything they want throughout most of their lives, and it's driving me insane! | If it makes you feel any better, every single one of my high school bullies are in jail or living off the system. So some people get what they deserve tehehe |
No moron. It's not as bad because we've been taking steps to make sure it doesn't get too bad. If we hadn't shut everything down it would have been very bad. Just because you don't see the benefits of precautions doesn't mean they are non-existent. | Yeah. reminds me of a quote that i can't properly attribute or remember but it was something like 'we won't be able to tell if we over-prepared, but we will know for sure if we under prepared. |
Before you attack me, I'm saying this as someone who also likes to get high. Stoners are some of the most obnoxious people ever. They're obsessed with making it a competition. If you talk about edibles, you could literally say any number and they would say that's nothing. In fact, I once knew a guy who would do this all the time, and I tested it out. I lied and said that I took 10,000 mg and he said "girl that's nothing". Brother what. Stfu we both know that's an absurd amount. Who are you even trying to impress? Nobody cares if you have a high tolerance. It doesn't make you look cool. Also for the love of God can stoners talk about anything besides how high they are. It gets old | Can stoners talk about something normal besides being high or wanting sex FOR FIVE MINUTES? |
Me and dude were mid sex when I hear him texting. I was in reverse cowgirl and it instantly killed the mood. Kicked him out now I’m angry because I really liked him and I’ve told him before that I don’t like when he’s on his phone while we go at it. I’m so livid that he can’t even take the 3-5 minutes he lasts in order to just focus on me and my satisfaction.
He got to cum and I didn’t. I can’t stand it | Wait? What? Texting while fucking you???? I must be old cuz I've never even heard of this shit! I don't even think my husband would remember he even has a phone while we're having sex! If you're gonna keep sexing this guy, you need one of those phone jail boxes. All phones in the jail until climax! |
I didn’t know what flair to make this but I just need to rant. I stupidly got hacked because I made a dumb $1 purchase on a website. And now everything’s blowing up in my face and I feel so stupid. Whoever spent over $108 dollars to gift themselves nitro on discord , fuck you!! Im a minor and i worked so hard for the money I make. And the other $150+ you tried to steal. (That thankfully got denied. Probably from suspicious activity). On top of all this my steam and Microsoft somehow got hacked, don’t even know how. So I had to change all those passwords. Now I have to deal with getting a new card, locking my account, etc… I also am getting notifications from so many things for “suspicious activity”. This account even got locked and I had to deal with that. Im so upset with myself and the money I might get back, but still.
TLDR; I’m stupid and now I’m hacked
Edit: Thank you guys for all the help! Everything’s been disputed and solved. | See if you can call your bank and dispute the charge then get a whole new card. |
I want to state right away that this post isn't about or supporting transphopia in any way. So, any comments of the sort are not welcome.
My (m35) wife (f31) has been a victim of sexual harassment from her Trans (m2f) co-worker that continued on for several months.
Last year, my wife started working at this company with this person. They started off making comments to my wife, such as "I'm going to steal you away from your husband," which my wife would awkwardly laugh off. Then they began making more explicit comments like "I want to use my dick to fuck you before I get it removed" or "I bet I can make you wetter than your husband". They would also grab her ass and fondle her breasts. This happened for 5 months before my wife opened up to me about it. She was upset and was afraid of being labeled a bigot if she reported it to HR. I told her if they were a a non trans man or woman she would've reported it right away, and that it doesn't matter who they are or what they identify as, it's Predatory and wrong.
My wife decided to report it and filled out a statement with witnesses willing to back her up. The district manager spoke to her and seemed to be sympathetic and concerned about the situation. However, the company is dragging their heels on the matter. The co-worker is still working there. It's began to take a toll on her mental well-being, and made her withdrawn sexually. It seems they refuse to handle the issue out of fear they may get bad PR or a lawsuit labeling them transphobic. It breaks my heart to see her like this, and angers me that they let a creep like that continue to work there and continue to harass my wife and potentially other employees. | Talk to a lawyer. |
I know you’re on your phone. I know you are at your house. You’re supposed to be my best friend ???? But you haven’t responded to a single one of my calls or messages since Sunday ??? I know you’re on your phone!!!! Drives me fucking nuts to just have radio silence for fucking days when you know I live out of town and I’m leaving to go back out of town in TWO DAYS
EDIT: added the not looking for input flair. It feels like some of y’all don’t understand what “venting” means. I’m venting about a friend not getting back to me. I don’t need to be told that I’m not entitled to their time. I KNOW THAT. But I thought I was okay to VENT in this sub. I love my friend. They’ll get back to me when they can. I’m irritated and wanted to vent. I understand they have no obligation to me. I JUST WANTED TO VENT.
EDIT 2: we are hanging and laughing at some of these silly comments. Thanks to those of you who had genuine answers/remarks 💜 | I used to do this and it wasn’t because I hated people or anything but my depression was pretty bad that even talking to people was mentally exhausting. Obviously it is crappy to be on the receiving end of it. |
I love my bf so much but I'm so sexually frustrated that it hurts. We can't have sex because he has a rash on his inner thighs, and it hurts him having sex.
So I don't know what to do. I have talked to him about it and he has tried to pleasure me in other ways, but it's not the same.
I feel so bad for being this sexually frustrated when I know it's not his fault and that he's so good for me, and I love him so much.
I don't know what to do | IMO you should be more worried about his rash that's not going away than you needing dick LMAO |
is what they did even legal? i had two grown men looking at my bare chest looking inside my fucking underwear. and this is for my safety? allegedly youre looking for razor blades and allegedly its for my safety, but you had at LEAST one woman in the hospital and you decided that YOU would be best suited to strip search the teenage girl. you chose to fucking humiliate me after i ODed? the fuck is wrong with you. jesus christ. youre evil
edit- i’m not an addict it was aspirin | Definitely had perverted intendancies especially if there was female staff available. But I’ve never heard this before. Where they strip them completely naked to check?? |
I (21f) went on a date with (22m) he asked me out and we agreed on a time and place. I googled mapped to see how far it was and it was 13mins away. I get in the car and we start driving until we reach a dead end road and he turns around and says “I don’t really know where I’m going” (wtf?) So he keeps driving around I asked him “where are we going?” And said he doesn’t know and he doesn’t really wanna get food anymore and asks me what i want to do. He then gets a call from his “homie” his friend told him he robbed someone for weed and 2grand he then tells me he has to drop me off and go get his guns to help his “homie”.
He also went on to tell me he does cocaine about twice a week and is a Andrew tate fan and trump supporter (no hate to anyone that is but that’s not my type) then he went on to call me a liberal all night. Which I’m not. He also told me he “doesn’t care about anyone but himself and his homies” I was asking questions because it was supposed to be a DATE! And he told me questions make him angry.
So all we did was drive around for 30 minutes then he dumped me off at home to I don’t even know help his homie rob someone?? I just went to the park and cried after. He didn’t seem like this type of person he seemed very normal also he was attractive. I never expected it to be like this though. | Sounds like that dude is looking for one night stands with immature chicks stuck in their “bad boy” phase and he thought you would find the whole Andrew Tate alpha male schtick with the guns and the cocaine seductive. |